u/Olichard

This is my first time ever making a post on reddit because I honestly don't know what to do. I cant talk to my friends about it since My gf wants to keep what happened to just me and her. I tried asking AI for advice but all I got was bullshit solutions that don't directly help our situation.

Im from the philippines (16M) and my gf is (15F). We've been together for almost a year now and we have been having sex for a long time now. Shes not completely new to it as shes had ex boyfriends that shes done sexual stuff with in the past way before she met me. So what happened was she came over to my house to have sex and spend time with me but we had a big fight and she ended up walking out on me. I tried chasing her to talk to her more and so that my parents could give her a ride home or use the 500 i gave her to book a joyride. But she didn't want any of that and just stormed off. I went back to my room to sleep because ive been awake for so long but for some reason I couldn't. I checked her location and I saw that she turned it off and it was stuck on a place barely outside my subdivision. at first i thought nothing of it but then 15 minutes went by and she still wasn't home. (My house is around 10 minutes away from hers) So then maybe I thought that she was mad at me and was trying to avoid me. I chatted her younger 14 year old sister to ask if Hannah was home and she thought that I was just joking around with her. But then as more minutes went by we got more scared as this isn't something that my gf would normally do even if shes mad. So I chatted her sister, my friends, and her friends to contact her number because I didn't have any load to call her number. As I waited for their response I rode my bike to her location to check if she was still in there or not. It was a sketchy asf junkyard type place with many abandoned cars. I looked around and even recorded it to check if she was there but she wasn't so I went home. I talked more to her sister about it and we got more and more scared of what could be happening to her. But after 2 hours she finally got home. I asked her sister to pic her and voicemail her and when I received the voicemail i instantly knew what happened. She was breathing so fucking hard and it was so obvious that she had been crying. Turns out her phone died and thats why no one could call her and locate her. When she finally did talk to me after she charged I kept asking and asking if she was okay and what happened. But she kept avoiding it and saying idk. I knew at the time something terrible must have happened because thats so not like her. Tomorrow morning I went to her Village to play basketball and when we got finished I came to her house to talk to her in person. And after a whole lot of convincing she finally told me that she had been raped at her last location. And then she shut the door on me because she didn't want to talk to me anymore. After that I had tryouts for basketball so i went there but the whole way there I cried multiple times and was so fucking bothered by it. After the tryout I went straight to her house to talk to her. At the time and i think still now I wanted to break up with her. What happened to her was completely my fault. I should have been there because that was my responsibility and I failed. Our relationship before that happened was also not doing great and to be honest I felt disgusted by her. I know how much of an asshole I am. But thats honestly how I felt. I think the rapist came inside her before she could get away. I came to her crying my eyes out with her favorite ice cream because I came there with the full intention of breaking up with her. We talked for 5 hours or more and I got home at 1 am.

I said everything that was on my mind. I didnt leave anything out. For my side I felt guilty for what happened and every time i see her or think about her I just get so sad and guilty for what happened. Shes like a constant reminder to me of how much of a failure I am as a boyfriend to her. I also think that she deserves way better than me. Shes a very attractive girl and has a bright future. She deserves a man that can protect her and be able to stay with her and comfort her during a time like that where she got raped but me? The moment I found out that she got raped I got utterly disgusted with her. She doesnt deserve an asshole like me. I wish I could be better and I am trying but its been 2 days since that happened and how i feel and think about it is still the same. My mind is so fucked up that a part of me thinks that she did that to get back at me because of our fight that day. or even like maybe she wanted it or she liked it or it felt good to her. she denied all of it but i cant help but think of those scenarios. For her side she didn't want to break up. She refused to break up with me because she thinks that she can still change the way i think and my mentality. Im her closest friend even if we weren't dating. We are literally best friends in a way but also fuck and love each other. So I guess we both didnt want to lose that. She also said that maybe I was just stunned by what happened and that I was making rash decisions on breaking up with her based on pure emotion. She still wants to be in a relationship with me even though Im pretty sure all of this was my fault and Im the one with an asshole ass mentality to even think of breaking up. I know how much of a coward I am for this.

If you want to hate on me and say shit then go, I honestly deserve all the hate for my failures. But I hope that maybe someone can help us deal with this situation.

She didn't want to tell anyone else. This is exactly what I hate about her. Her ex situation-ship also forced her to suck dick but instead of telling the authorities she just kept it to herself. I cant stand that a guy like that who rapes random woman off the street can walk freely. She has told me multiple times to not do anything about it as she wants to move on from what happened.

I dont want to tell her this but I did talk to a cop about it and the cop advised me to go to a baranggay or police station and report it but Im not sure if that will work. No one saw what happened and its purely the word of hannah against the guy. its been almost 3 days since what happened so im not sure if they can still get the dna of the guy from her and it also may mix with my dna so it may be hard. I went and talked to the police near the spot to ask and he told me to go to the police station and report it to check if there was a CCTV nearby that could have seen the guy. The place is a run down junkyard tho so im not sure if it has. Im pretty sure I cant go to the baranggay as they will make my gf go there and involve both our families which is the exact opposite of what she wants. But later I will go back to the junk yard and look for a cctv and knock on nearby housed to ask if they saw or have cctv.

I hope that someone out there can see this and help us.

This is my first time ever making a post on reddit because I honestly don't know what to do. I cant talk to my friends about it since My gf wants to keep what happened to just me and her. I tried asking AI for advice but all I got was bullshit solutions that don't directly help our situation.

Im from the philippines (16M) and my gf is (15F). We've been together for almost a year now and we have been having sex for a long time now. Shes not completely new to it as shes had ex boyfriends that shes done sexual stuff with in the past way before she met me. So what happened was she came over to my house to have sex and spend time with me but we had a big fight and she ended up walking out on me. I tried chasing her to talk to her more and so that my parents could give her a ride home or use the 500 i gave her to book a joyride. But she didn't want any of that and just stormed off. I went back to my room to sleep because ive been awake for so long but for some reason I couldn't. I checked her location and I saw that she turned it off and it was stuck on a place barely outside my subdivision. at first i thought nothing of it but then 15 minutes went by and she still wasn't home. (My house is around 10 minutes away from hers) So then maybe I thought that she was mad at me and was trying to avoid me. I chatted her younger 14 year old sister to ask if Hannah was home and she thought that I was just joking around with her. But then as more minutes went by we got more scared as this isn't something that my gf would normally do even if shes mad. So I chatted her sister, my friends, and her friends to contact her number because I didn't have any load to call her number. As I waited for their response I rode my bike to her location to check if she was still in there or not. It was a sketchy asf junkyard type place with many abandoned cars. I looked around and even recorded it to check if she was there but she wasn't so I went home. I talked more to her sister about it and we got more and more scared of what could be happening to her. But after 2 hours she finally got home. I asked her sister to pic her and voicemail her and when I received the voicemail i instantly knew what happened. She was breathing so fucking hard and it was so obvious that she had been crying. Turns out her phone died and thats why no one could call her and locate her. When she finally did talk to me after she charged I kept asking and asking if she was okay and what happened. But she kept avoiding it and saying idk. I knew at the time something terrible must have happened because thats so not like her. Tomorrow morning I went to her Village to play basketball and when we got finished I came to her house to talk to her in person. And after a whole lot of convincing she finally told me that she had been raped at her last location. And then she shut the door on me because she didn't want to talk to me anymore. After that I had tryouts for basketball so i went there but the whole way there I cried multiple times and was so fucking bothered by it. After the tryout I went straight to her house to talk to her. At the time and i think still now I wanted to break up with her. What happened to her was completely my fault. I should have been there because that was my responsibility and I failed. Our relationship before that happened was also not doing great and to be honest I felt disgusted by her. I know how much of an asshole I am. But thats honestly how I felt. I think the rapist came inside her before she could get away. I came to her crying my eyes out with her favorite ice cream because I came there with the full intention of breaking up with her. We talked for 5 hours or more and I got home at 1 am.

I said everything that was on my mind. I didnt leave anything out. For my side I felt guilty for what happened and every time i see her or think about her I just get so sad and guilty for what happened. Shes like a constant reminder to me of how much of a failure I am as a boyfriend to her. I also think that she deserves way better than me. Shes a very attractive girl and has a bright future. She deserves a man that can protect her and be able to stay with her and comfort her during a time like that where she got raped but me? The moment I found out that she got raped I got utterly disgusted with her. She doesnt deserve an asshole like me. I wish I could be better and I am trying but its been 2 days since that happened and how i feel and think about it is still the same. My mind is so fucked up that a part of me thinks that she did that to get back at me because of our fight that day. or even like maybe she wanted it or she liked it or it felt good to her. she denied all of it but i cant help but think of those scenarios. For her side she didn't want to break up. She refused to break up with me because she thinks that she can still change the way i think and my mentality. Im her closest friend even if we weren't dating. We are literally best friends in a way but also fuck and love each other. So I guess we both didnt want to lose that. She also said that maybe I was just stunned by what happened and that I was making rash decisions on breaking up with her based on pure emotion. She still wants to be in a relationship with me even though Im pretty sure all of this was my fault and Im the one with an asshole ass mentality to even think of breaking up. I know how much of a coward I am for this.

If you want to hate on me and say shit then go, I honestly deserve all the hate for my failures. But I hope that maybe someone can help us deal with this situation.

She didn't want to tell anyone else. This is exactly what I hate about her. Her ex situation-ship also forced her to suck dick but instead of telling the authorities she just kept it to herself. I cant stand that a guy like that who rapes random woman off the street can walk freely. She has told me multiple times to not do anything about it as she wants to move on from what happened.

I dont want to tell her this but I did talk to a cop about it and the cop advised me to go to a baranggay or police station and report it but Im not sure if that will work. No one saw what happened and its purely the word of hannah against the guy. its been almost 3 days since what happened so im not sure if they can still get the dna of the guy from her and it also may mix with my dna so it may be hard. I went and talked to the police near the spot to ask and he told me to go to the police station and report it to check if there was a CCTV nearby that could have seen the guy. The place is a run down junkyard tho so im not sure if it has. Im pretty sure I cant go to the baranggay as they will make my gf go there and involve both our families which is the exact opposite of what she wants. But later I will go back to the junk yard and look for a cctv and knock on nearby housed to ask if they saw or have cctv.

I hope that someone out there can see this and help us.