u/Ok_Language2849

So I'm someone who puts in 110% in everyone and anyone I meet. I attach to people fast usually within 3 weeks and 4 weeks at the most.

Obviously I worked for 9 years straight across two different jobs and I was never ever at home. I spent 13hrs at work and probably only 8hrs at home at a push.

I was out working everyday with minimal days off and met loads of people. I was basically never alone, in my eyes I watched for 9 years friends come and go.

I did leave my job in 2024 due to burn out and then all those friends that I had met over the years died down as I was recovering from the burn out and was on long term sick leave for stress.

Now 2 years have passed, I want to meet new people, make new friends and have new connections. I love meeting people and hate being alone. It's boring and not exciting.

My therapist suggested homwork was to research clubs to join but DO NOT JOIN just look and be curious in how I feel when browsing.

I told her I couldn't just do that and I would more than likely just join. So she scrapped the homework and left me with two passive homework tasks journaling and writing a pros and cons list of child me etc

I've done all that. So what else can I do to meet new people and form a connection. She didn't give me any other options so I'm on here asking.

So I am someone who gets excited very fast and quickly. I live life at the speed of light and only slow down once I'm exhausted.

My therapist knows this and I told her, she saw this happening in real life as every therapy session from November 2025 to February 2026 was emotionally intense and I had a lot of energy.

I did burn out due to it and took a 3 week break to calm down and recover. I came back calmer and the last couple sessions have been "boring" and there's not much going on.

Anyways we all know I hate homework and never do it BUT she suggested one homework task which was when I told her I'm 30 and have no social life or friends anymore and haven't seen them in just over 2 years.

She told me homework was to research and be curious about joining clubs such as a hiking club, book club or something else. I got so excited when she figured what I like being outdoors and now no longer like clubbing or drinking.

She told me the homework was so look up clubs to join but don't act on it. I told her I can't guarantee I will look and not join.

Then she said don't do the homework.

Now I've lost interest in joining anything and wonder why she paused the homework task and just told me to sit and journal and write a pro and cons list of child me

Anyone understand why she would pause the homework when I told her I'd join and probably meet new friends and attach to them quickly but healthily

I know I asked something similar last week and here I am again a week later asking it again.

Is doing homework actually necessary for progress in therapy?

In my last session my therapist set me 3 homework tasks and I basically said I wasn't going to to all 3 and basically just straight up picked the easiest one to do.

I can imagine some people would do all 3 but I'm like in my head "Why are you giving me 101 homework stuff to do?"

So again is it necessary or just pick what you feel you want to do.

So I posted on another subreddit last week about my anger in sessions and how I refuse to do weekly therapy and that I do take breaks (without telling my therapist) and sometimes if a session has a rupture I won't come to another session until I've calmed down.

Most people did say that I need to go weekly, push through, address every single rupture and repair it in real time rather than later.

Also suggested maybe therapy isn't what I need and to do DBT instead.

So now I'm confused why people are against or concerned if someone shows intense emotions during a session.

In my everyday life, I am reactive and expressive but apart from that I am quite calm even if people on here find that hard to believe.

So should I pause therapy do DBT to learn how to be "calmer and less intense" or continue therapy but go weekly?

I am curious to know why people are so sort of concerned when someone shows intense emotions in therapy?

For example I posted last week about me showing anger, getting defensive, refusing to answer my therapists questions and also being blunt when she suggsted homework and saying "I'll see." And storming off when the session ended.

My therapist has never addressed my anger, bluntness or me refusing not to answer questions as an issue.

I still turn up to probably 90% of my sessions angry, even in my last session on Thursday I got angry and then stopped listening to what she was saying and shutdown and zoned out.