I had 50/50 custody with my daughter. I like the step-dad he is a great guy. I don't worry about my daughter with him. I know my daughter loves him and used to split fathers day with him.
I taught my daughter to read, ride a bike, roller skate, and swim. I very seldom said no to her. I never broke my promises to her, this led me to driving 100 miles round trip every wednesday so she could belly dance. She used to do things like Krav Maga, her other parents would never take her because one of the classes were on their Tuesday. So I took her all the time. I also taught my daughter to row rivers, she was rowing class three rivers solo at 8 years old, and had been down class 5 rivers at the age of 8.
She stopped all of that stuff for Soccer. I paid for all of her private lessons, and almost all of the costs, club soccer is not cheap. I even coached her recreation leagues. I would take her out and practice with her everyday. I even remodeled the room in the basement so she could train.
However, two years ago, my daughter and I got into a fight. I asked her to do something she didn't want to do it, and we had fought about this for several months before. She then lied to me about it. Using love and logic which is how I raised her I told her that she would be grounded from her phone for two weeks and asked her to give me the phone. She said No. So i said give me your phone or I am not paying for your soccer. She called her mom, her mom came over and picked her up and said they would pay for the soccer. I have seen my daughter twice since then. They let her date which I was against until she was 16, (her mom was letting her date at 13) I didn't want her to get a septum piercing and her parents allowed that, so my place wasn't fun.
I decided to move out of the country and offered to fly her to see me which her parents never answered.
People tell me someday she will regret it. I don't think so because her step father has been there just as long as I have. Any thoughts on this?