u/OkMarketing3996

Today i found out my bf of 3 years cheated on me while working on the other side of the country. I am extremely devastated and really want to vent. Some kind words would be so so much appreciated.

Tonight i took his phone to send myself some photos that we took together a couple of days before because he kept forgetting to do it. And in his gallery i saw a nude photo that he never sent to me.

My heart dropped so i started checking his social media and found messages with a woman from the city that he was working at. There wasn’t any clue like a dating app activity and the chat history was only one day old but i could tell he just deleted the rest.

I woke him up to ask what is that but he brushed me off and got mad for disrupting his sleep. I couldn’t calm myself down and was shaking for about two hours and then finally went to sleep. During the day while he was at work I messaged him to give me his login and password so i could ask the woman myself.

He came home and kept lying and making excuses and just gaslighting me over and over. He deleted the messages while i was asleep but i still managed to find the girl’s account and asked her to tell me what happened.

She said she had no idea he was in a relationship and that they slept together. I sent screenshots of that to some of his friends and one of his brothers. He deleted a couple before people could read them but enough still saw them.

One even called right after and I picked it up while he ran to the bathroom in shame. And another one messaged me offering support after he packed his crap and finally left my apartment.

I hope he loses everyone. But he probably won’t. Oh well.

The thing i don’t understand is why did he throw it all away for a hookup. We planned to build a house together where i could open a cat shelter. It was my dream. It was his dream to build a house. Now its all gone. And i pretty much have nothing left to look forward to.

He tried to apologize and make me stay but im not gonna be a doormat like that. I had no idea he could lie to my face and not feel an ounce of guilt. I realize he only feels bad because he got caught. This is probably the worst betrayal in my life.

Thank you so much for reading and sorry for the bad grammar, im not a native English speaker.