u/Ok-Weather6157

Hey ! 32(F) here. Anyone involved in running these days? If yes which club do you usually go from or with? I am new into running and am looking for likeminded people to run with!

I have noticed a pattern in myself where I reflect a lot after emotional situations.

Even when both people acknowledge mistakes or things are unclear, I end up taking most of the responsibility on myself. I replay conversations, overanalyze what I said or did, what I did not say and did not do and what I should have said (lol), and it slowly turns into guilt and self-blame instead of just learning from it.

I’m trying to grow and be more self-aware (by going gym, walking and finding new hobbies), but sometimes it feels like I go too far and lose mental peace in the process. I also realize I can shape myself too much in relationships and then later struggle with feeling like I’ve lost my own balance.

How do you learn to reflect without overthinking everything or taking all the blame on yourself? How do you stay self-aware but not self-destructive?