u/OhGloriousName

This is for a party of 4. 2 of us arrived 5 minutes after we said we expected to arrive, which was 5 minutes after the restaurant opened. We texted the update, like "Be there in a couple minutes." They did say they would sit down if they got there first and we knew they got there first. The restaurant was already pretty full.

We walked around the restaurant to look for the table. They had already gotten a table and left the table to fill their plates. So after we couldn't find the table because they weren't at it, we had to go to the buffet and ask them where the table was.

In addition, this is an all you can eat or a pick from the menu restaurant and their policy is if one person gets all you can eat, everyone has to, which is the most expensive option, that I wasn't planning on getting.

My son isn't autistic. His friend is. I wanted to get some perspective on this from people who are autistic.

My son is 12. His friend is autistic but high functioning. They are pretty much best friends. The autistic boy has been giving my son flowers. First a few weeks ago. Then yesterday. He went out of his way to pick roses and take all the thorns off.

My son has just said he might be bi and has a crush on this boy.

Do you think the autistic boy is just being nice with the flowers or is he making a point to show he likes my son as more than friends.

His mom told me and said not to say anything to him. In the last few months he has wanted to ask a girl to be his valentine, but another boy asked first.

When I asked him a couple years ago if he wanted to marry a boy or girl he said a girl and he knows in his heart he is doesn't like boys. Then he has told his mom that he will be open minded because he has gay friends and he might like boys. So it seems like he is all over the place.

He said he was going to ask the boy he has a crush what he is. They are best friends, although he has multiple best friends. But he is really in the top 3 at least. My concern is that the boys father may not like this.

I thought that the boy should tell his father if he is gay or bi, if that is the case rather it be potentially that him and my son are boyfriends, so it's about his sons orientation first.

Aside from their orientation, they are only in Jr High. A lot of parents don't let their kids date till High School. Then their is the issue of it possibly ruining their friendship even if they both like each other.

TLDR. Coworker who relieved me from my shift seems to have difficulty interpreting my updates and texted me that I seemed annoyed and she really does understand English, which is an issue I never brought up.

I am a full time student and work part time doing in home caregiving, so I have most of my time free.

Anyway when my shift is over the next caregiver comes in and I just need to give an update on a couple things. I have 4 different caregivers who I have to do this with, but mainly one. The others I have no issue at all communicating with.

It's like I tell her something pretty simple that happened and it seems like half the time, by her response that whatever I said she understands as something different than what I said. I honestly sometimes get frustrated because I am tired and when she responds it's abruptly and like she is correcting me in a way that doesn't make sense. Often what she says doesn't reflect what I have said. I sometimes just interrupt and say, "I didn't say anything about that. I said...". She seems a bit taken back by it, but the most important thing is to make sure she knows what I said and doesn't make it into something else.

A couple days ago, she did this more than usual and I was pretty tired and know I was showing annoyance. It really gets exhausting with this difficult communications, so it's hard to be patient sometimes.

She ended up texting me saying with a photo to show something to prove her point, that was actually something that I told her, so if she understood, there was no need to do this. Then she said I seemed annoyed and that she really does know enough English to understand me. I never thought she didn't understand English. She seems very fluent. I thought that she just doesn't listen and chooses to talk a lot instead.

Anyway, replied that what I had told her when I last saw her was in agreement with the photo in the text and the I am tired and don't always understand her. I actually do understand the words she is saying. I just don't understand why she is saying them. No reply back.

I thought about it and decided I will just write down the info I need to let her know and keep any discussion to an absolute minimum by giving very short simple answers and avoiding further discussions.

I'm not sure what else to do. I feel kind of bad, but the amount of effort it takes to make sure she is on the same page is hard, especially when she talks so much while showing that she didn't get what I was saying.

It's a broad question, so say whatever you want to say.