u/Odd_Heron_2617

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 years. We have 2 kids together. One was born a few months ago. I feel like he isn’t helpful with the kids at all. He does work night shift so I get that he’s tired all the time. But I feel like on his days off he will sleep all day long and play video games at night. So we basically don’t spend time with him. I feel like when I try to talk to him about things that interest me, he acts like he doesn’t care. He’s always on his phone when he’s not playing games. I’ve been asking him to spend time with us. Especially with our son. I feel so burnt out because I’m doing everything alone. I live far from family so I don’t have them to help me either. It just bothers me because he can play games with his friends all night long and sound happy. But when it’s with me he acts like I’m not important. I honestly don’t feel like he’s giving me what I need a in a relationship but I feel stuck. I’ve been unemployed for 2 years to be a stay at home mom. I have no money in my bank account and rely on him. I don’t know how to leave him and not struggle financially. He always tells me how much he loves me but I don’t feel like words are enough. I wish I never stopped working for him because now I feel stuck. I also just saw on insta that he followed a girl. I feel like I should leave but man idk how :( 2 kids. No money. No money to pay my own car payment. I feel so stuck

My 18 month old has extremely sensitive skin. He’s had eczema since he was a baby. We have done allergy testing to see if anything could trigger it when he was 8 months old and wasn’t allergic to anything. Not even cats. ( his allergist said that he could be allergic but we would have to retest in a year which isn’t until August) However I feel like he might have a sensitivity to the cat. My boyfriend disagrees. When we first moved into our apartment a few months ago, his eczema cleared up. But now that we’ve been living here for some time, it’s flared up again. I think that it took some time for the cat dander to get all over the place. Whenever my son touches the cat he’s constantly itching his eyes. We spray the house with allergen spray, brush the cat, have air purifiers, and even tried feeding the ain’t allergen food in the past. I think i want to make another allergist appointment and retest him. I was extremely allergic to cats as a child and my boyfriend would get itchy around them in the past. So I think there’s a high chance my son is allergic as well. My boyfriend says that we shouldn’t get rid of the cat if our son is allergic. He says that since my son is allergic to grass are we going to keep him inside forever which it’s not the same thing!! Living in a house with a cat is all day exposure. And being outside isn’t.

I just feel bad for my son because he’s always itching his eyes and eczema that’s all over his body :(

I live in an apartment and my next door neighbor has 2 aggressive dogs. One is a pit bull and the other I think is a chow chow. Every time we run into them in the hall the dogs are trying to attack us and the owner barely can keep them under control. There have been times where we are waiting for the elevator and when the door opens the dogs are out there and instantly lunge at us. I’m afraid because I have small children. I have emailed my leasing office about this and they said they will talk to my neighbor. Since then we have had multiple occurrences with the dogs. There have been times where I open my front door about to walk out and my neighbor is walking by with her dogs right at my door so I have to hurry back inside. The other day my partner was coming home from work and both dogs almost bit him when he was exiting the elevator. I messaged my leasing office again and asked if they can request for the dogs to be muzzles indoor or request for the tenant to use the back stair well to avoid interactions. However they responded saying that our apartment is pet friendly. They can’t require dogs to be muzzled in doors but do require owners to be in control of their dogs and have them leashed at all times.

However it seems like my neighbor can’t keep control of her dogs. I’m not sure if I should respond again saying that she clearly can’t handle her dogs or just let it be. I don’t want to seem like a complainer, but I’m worried something will happen to my kids or even other kids in the hall. What do you guys think about the situation.