u/OctopusIntellect

Hi, I'm a 15 y/o in a regular school, my parents want to get a court order for control until I'm 21. I'm not as bad as most autistic people. I'm inclined to believe the aforementioned court order is a real thing as I've seen posts from British subreddits mentioning carers. I recently went to Spain with my school and there was only one problem: I went to the bathroom in our hostel and the others left without me, however, I used my initiative and phoned our trip emergency number and got picked up. In school, I get along fine and in exams I only have Extra Time and word processor privileges. When I'm 18 I plan to move to England and get a job in Software Engineering and I feel like this would definitely interfere. I could apply when 21 but I want an apprenticeship at the same company. I am mostly responsible. Can i do anything?

I caught my son using a search engine called start page to watch, you can guess what he was watching.

The way start page works is that it creates a new tab that uses a VPN and it disguises it in the search history as some random string of characters after the startpage.com part.

I thought I should let you all know about this.

There was this guy at my school who was a senior and was about to graduate. He was 18 and was going to propose to his girlfriend when she’d turned 18. But now she’s alone because the school nurse refused to give him his medication for his asthma he was able to sign himself out, he started to walk home, then had a heart attack due to lack of oxygen, and collapsed unconscious and was there for like 20-30 mins until someone found him.

I (23 F) have extremely controlling parents who believe religiously in patriarchy and that they need to control me until I’m passed off in marriage to a man. I have gone no contact and they’ve attempted to track and stalk me many times. I now know they are reading my texts messages because they know exactly what I text people. And not people who would tell them, they know about texts to people they don’t know. I’ve changed my Apple ID, passwords, etc. but they still are seeing them. How can I prevent this? When I was a kid they monitored my texts using a parental control app called bark, could they still be monitoring my texts this way? I have my own phone plan, my own phone and a new number but my Apple ID is the same. I have changed the password though. Please help! Is there somewhere I could go to get my phone checked for spyware?

I’m 16 and my parents literally don’t let me go anywhere. I’m not even doing anything bad, they’re just super paranoid about everything. If I do go somewhere during the day, they blow up my phone, track me, sometimes even drive around to check on me, call other people’s parents, and try to meet everyone. It’s just… extra.

Meanwhile all my friends can actually go out, hang out, stay out late sometimes, and just be normal teenagers. My friends are starting to stop inviting me places because they already know how my parents are. It’s not my grades or behavior or anything like that, it’s just them.

I feel like I’m missing out on everything and it’s starting to mess with me mentally. You only get to be a teenager once, and I’m stuck in the house all the time. I don’t even want to “grow up fast,” I just want basic freedom like everyone else my age.

And yeah, I get safety matters, but forcing me to have them meet every parent just to hang out is crazy to me. None of my friends’ parents do all that. It just makes me feel lame and isolated.

Has anyone else dealt with this? What did you do?

Hi, I'm Kelly, a journalist. I'm writing a feature about parental-monitoring apps: Bark, Aura, Qustodio, Family Link, Life360, and similar. For credibility--my profile links to my published work. I'm particularly interested in hearing from those who have been surveilled (whether in the past, or ongoing) since this is so rarely covered, but I'd love to hear from anyone wishing to share their thoughts.

If you've ever been monitored using these apps, I'd love a ~30 minute interview, by phone, video, or whatever's easiest. Anonymity is always an option, and if you are under 18 I would need a quick email approval from your parents unless it is unsafe to do so--we could decide what works for you.

Some specific things I'm trying to understand:

-How you found out the app was there

-What it actually did (and didn't do)

-What you did about it (workarounds, conversations, anything)

-How it affected things between you and your family

If you're willing, please comment below or DM me.

Thanks!

(Throwaway account and email)

17M, living with parents. I got my 2nd bank account earlier this week to use as a dedicated savings account (monzo) my parents opened the letter containing the card and proceeded to take the card and hide it and are refusing to hand it over or disclose where it is. Is there anything I can do about it?

(This post might end up being taken down if the logical arguement also fails because my mother believes that a slice of cheese constitutes enough carbs for a meal)

Hi to all the parents here. I know this is a sub about parenting but I cannot really find a sub that's appropriate for a question like this. I'm (F18) worried about my brother (M13) who's currently in 8th grade right now and he STILL isn't serious about studying. Like no concern. It's so bad to the point that my parents have to force him to sit down and study and he does but he acts like a goddamn 5 year old when he is told to. He shouts at my parents, constantly makes it very VERY obvious that he doesn't want to be there. All he wants to do is just hang out with his friends and go out. And that's fine! But the concerning thing is that he doesn't remember BASIC concepts from his previous classes and honestly I find that very concerning. He even acts so immature that when my parents enrolled him for extra classes, he cries about said classes and insults the teachers who teacher there.

It's honestly pissing me off and making me confused at the same time... like what's going on? I mean i was pretty immature when I was his age but not to the point where I actively avoid homework.... Just to give some context about my home life, my parents do verbally and physically abuse him if he doesn't get good grades or if doesn't listen to them (same goes for me). Is it because he isn't serious about anything? Or that he associates studying with my god awful parents?? Is there anything I can do to make him sit down and improve even a bit academically?

My child is definitely not old enough to use the tram by themselves yet but I was wondering what age is appropriate excluding going to and from school