u/Objective_Raccoon176

I (21F) need some perspective about my boyfriend (21M).

He recently started an internship at IIT, and over the past ~1.5 months I’ve noticed a change in his behavior. He used to be pretty introverted (like me), but now he seems much more outgoing. I get that new environments can bring that out in people, so I’m trying to be open-minded—but something about the situation is making me uneasy.

His intern group is mostly girls (around 4–5), and he’s the only guy in that group. He did tell them he has a girlfriend (me), which I appreciated. But whenever we talk, he constantly refers to “the group”—like they go to the IIT café together during breaks, plan things together, and recently even went out for dinner after work.

There are apparently 2–3 other guys (not interns, but contract employees) who sometimes join them, but whenever I ask directly who’s there, he tends to answer vaguely like “the group” instead of clearly saying who exactly was present. For example, when I asked if the girls were at the dinner, he didn’t directly answer and just said the group was there.

I don’t want to be controlling or insecure, and I understand that coworkers hanging out together is normal—especially in internships. But the way he avoids giving clear answers sometimes makes me feel a bit uneasy.

Am I overthinking this, or is it reasonable to feel a bit cautious here? How would you approach this situation?

TL;DR:

BF started internship, became more outgoing and hangs out a lot with a mostly female group. Says he told them he has a GF, but is vague when I ask who exactly he’s with. I don’t want to be insecure, but the lack of clear answers is making me uneasy—am I overthinking?

I (21F) need some perspective about my boyfriend (21M).

He recently started an internship at IIT, and over the past ~1.5 months I’ve noticed a change in his behavior. He used to be pretty introverted (like me), but now he seems much more outgoing. I get that new environments can bring that out in people, so I’m trying to be open-minded, but something about the situation is making me uneasy.

His intern group is mostly girls (around 4–5), and he’s the only guy in that group. He did tell them he has a girlfriend (me), which I appreciated. But whenever we talk, he constantly refers to “the group", like they go to the IIT cafe together during breaks, plan things together, and recently even went out for dinner after work.

There are apparently 2–3 other guys (not interns, but contract employees) who sometimes join them, but whenever I ask directly who’s there, he tends to answer vaguely like “the group” instead of clearly saying who exactly was present. For example, when I asked if the girls were at the dinner, he didn’t directly answer and just said the group was there.

I don’t want to be controlling or insecure, and I understand that coworkers hanging out together is normal, especially in internships. But the way he avoids giving clear answers sometimes makes me feel a bit uneasy.

Am I overthinking this, or is it reasonable to feel a bit cautious here? How would you approach this situation?

I (21F) need some perspective about my boyfriend (21M).

He recently started an internship at IIT, and over the past ~1.5 months I’ve noticed a change in his behavior. He used to be pretty introverted (like me), but now he seems much more outgoing. I get that new environments can bring that out in people, so I’m trying to be open-minded—but something about the situation is making me uneasy.

His intern group is mostly girls (around 4–5), and he’s the only guy in that group. He did tell them he has a girlfriend (me), which I appreciated. But whenever we talk, he constantly refers to “the group”—like they go to the IIT café together during breaks, plan things together, and recently even went out for dinner after work.

There are apparently 2–3 other guys (not interns, but contract employees) who sometimes join them, but whenever I ask directly who’s there, he tends to answer vaguely like “the group” instead of clearly saying who exactly was present. For example, when I asked if the girls were at the dinner, he didn’t directly answer and just said the group was there.

I don’t want to be controlling or insecure, and I understand that coworkers hanging out together is normal—especially in internships. But the way he avoids giving clear answers sometimes makes me feel a bit uneasy.

Am I overthinking this, or is it reasonable to feel a bit cautious here? How would you approach this situation?