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I just want to preface this by saying my husband is a good dad. He’s very old school, 1990s style dad, which is fine and I knew that going into our marriage/relationship 11 years ago because I have a 14 year old stepdaughter. We now have 2 toddler girls ourselves and I’m straight up exhausted being the primary parent.

I take time off work for appointments, if our babysitter cancels, I do all pickup and drop offs at the babysitter before and after work, I take our toddler to tball and dance alone and have to take her younger sister. I do morning wakeups and bed time routines and baths. I do it all unless I ask for help. He has taken them on occasion when our sitter planned a vacation day in advance and I absolutely couldn’t take time off work. It works best if I take PTO because I work for a corporation and he works for himself. He doesn’t get PTO. He just doesn’t get paid unless he reschedules jobs. Which he does do frequently for his own hobbies like hunting and fishing.

He is a good dad and cooks a lot because it’s almost impossible for me to cook with two toddlers under my feet screaming for something every second or fighting. He coaches our 14 year olds softball team and has for the last 5 years. He plays with the kids when he’s home. He just has a lot of outdoor hobbies.

I’m at my wits end today. I work a 9-5 and it’s our busy season. I’m at 20 hours already and it’s only Tuesday. He went to bed last night at 2am. Woke up at 11am and went to a job for 5 hours. Came home and cooked himself dinner and has done nothing else. I woke up this morning at 5:45am, got the kids up and to their babysitter by 6:30, to work by 7am. Worked regular hours until 3pm, and then left work to pick my kids up by 4pm, took them to their grandmas by 5pm, went back to work for an event at 5:45, finished up and had to go pick the kids back up at 8:30pm and now I’m doing bedtime routine with them while my husband scrolls. I’m screaming inside. He had one job and couldn’t help watch the kids or even pick and drop them off to his mom if he couldn’t.

I’m burned. Real bad.