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Hi, before I get into the update, let me just clear a few things up to the best of my ability with my somewhat clueless ass lmfao.

I saw a lot of questions about some stuff so I’ll answer here, even though I don’t feel like completely airing out my own family and our business. But I guess I did post for the whole internet to see, so that’s on me lmao

1. Where was dad in all of this? After the divorce my mom kept custody of us kids and he wasn’t allowed to be at the house with us, after the messy divorce, my mom took basically everything from him and he was couch surfing on friends couches until he got enough for an apartment. He didn’t have enough room to move all of us kids with him but he was and is still very supportive and very much in our lives as much as he can be.
2. As for the house, the rent was in my mom’s name for a while after the divorce until we told the landlord about our situation and were wondering if it was possible if we could get the name under my older sibling’s name. I don’t know, my older sibling handled the legal stuff so I’m not too sure what all happened, all I know is that it somehow worked out thank goodness. At the time my mom was still paying for the rent and utilities so I GUESS that counts for something, somewhat. But we did have to make our own money for groceries and take care of the kids ourselves and she eventually stopped paying for it all together as we got older before it was moved into my older sibling’s name so that helped us get it into my older sibling’s name too.
3. The legal guardian switch to my older sibling. I’m not too sure about how and what happened unfortunately. I just know that they went to court, my mom willingly gave over custody because we blackmailed her, and that’s was that. I’m sorry I don’t know much about the legal process or how it happened.
4. Where we’re from, we aren’t from the US. That’s all I’m gonna say.
5. This is AI. This one made me laugh because, does our life really sound like an AI story? Weird. I dunno what to tell you, if you believe this is all fake, then move along I don’t know lmao. Thank you to those who have given advice and support.

I think that’s all the stuff mentioned in the comments of my post, now on with the update.

In the morning I dropped the kids off at school and went to work, my older sibling stayed home in case my mom showed up. I got off at noon and we switched off so my older sibling went to work and I came home. My mom texted and told us that she would be here around 5 pm. We told her once again that we wouldn’t be letting her move in and that she needs to find somewhere else to go because it’s not here. She replied with a simple “don’t be like that.” And my older sibling told her “show up, the cops will be waiting” and she didn’t reply after that.

She showed up around 3 when it was just me and my uncle here and my uncle immediately stood up and walked out to talk to her. I called my older sibling and told them that she was here and my sibling told me to call the cops. I called the cops and went outside after that.

When I went outside I saw her screaming at my uncle and was telling him he couldn’t “keep her from her kids”. I stepped in and told her that no one was keeping us from her, it was OUR decision not wanting her here. She turned to me and told me not to talk like that to her. I told her I can and will talk to her however I want because she treated us however she wanted like when she wants to act like we were her kids only when it was convenient for her.

Of course she didn’t take this well and started getting mad saying we were being dramatic and that she didn’t do anything wrong. That she left us because she knew that we were more than old enough to handle ourselves. That she needed to be happy too. I sort of laughed at her and said “yeah? and how’d that work out?” This argument went on until my older sibling showed up with the younger siblings and they told her she had to leave and that the police were called.

My mom told them that she wasn’t going anywhere because she was our mom and she wasn’t going to let us “disrespect” her like this. My older sibling said that was fine and we could wait for the cops. My uncle tried to take the civil approach and told her she didn’t have to make this hard and she could just leave and stay somewhere else like my grandparents.

She didn’t take too kindly to that and once again, started cussing him out telling him to stay out of it and even went as far as slapping him. By this time, the kids were still in the car and were getting upset about all the screaming she was doing and I told her she needed to stop because she was upsetting the kids.

My older sibling quickly got the kids out and told me to bring them inside and stay with them. I took them inside and made sure to calm them down until the police arrived. I don’t know what exactly happened after that, I was watching from the window but couldn’t really hear anything and was told it was just more arguing on her part.

My older sibling told me that she also started harassing them because they’re nonbinary and said some not so nice words about them which really angered me. Eventually after about 10 minutes the police arrived and they asked what was happening and whatever and I went out because they wanted my side. So I told them and they asked for documents and my older sibling went inside to grab everything from their room.

The police looked over them and asked more questions and after that they told her she needed to leave and that it was up to my uncle if he wanted to press charges for the assault. That’s when she started crying and saying things like “I just want to be back with my kids” and started apologizing for everything she did but the police just kept saying “I know I know but we can’t do anything about that, if they don’t want you here then you can’t be here.” And things like that.

She eventually left and the cops asked if my uncle wanted to press charges and he said no it was fine. So that was that. They told us that if she shows up again to call and she’ll be arrested.

We don’t know where she is or if she’s coming back, hopefully not. Anyways yeah, that’s basically what happened.

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Hi, before I get into the update, let me just clear a few things up to the best of my ability with my somewhat clueless ass lmfao.

I saw a lot of questions about some stuff so I’ll answer here, even though I don’t feel like completely airing out my own family and our business. But I guess I did post for the whole internet to see, so that’s on me lmao

1. Where was dad in all of this? After the divorce my mom kept custody of us kids and he wasn’t allowed to be at the house with us, after the messy divorce, my mom took basically everything from him and he was couch surfing on friends couches until he got enough for an apartment. He didn’t have enough room to move all of us kids with him but he was and is still very supportive and very much in our lives as much as he can be.
2. As for the house, the rent was in my mom’s name for a while after the divorce until we told the landlord about our situation and were wondering if it was possible if we could get the name under my older sibling’s name. I don’t know, my older sibling handled the legal stuff so I’m not too sure what all happened, all I know is that it somehow worked out thank goodness. At the time my mom was still paying for the rent and utilities so I GUESS that counts for something, somewhat. But we did have to make our own money for groceries and take care of the kids ourselves and she eventually stopped paying for it all together as we got older before it was moved into my older sibling’s name so that helped us get it into my older sibling’s name too.
3. The legal guardian switch to my older sibling. I’m not too sure about how and what happened unfortunately. I just know that they went to court, my mom willingly gave over custody because we blackmailed her, and that’s was that. I’m sorry I don’t know much about the legal process or how it happened.
4. Where we’re from, we aren’t from the US. That’s all I’m gonna say.
5. This is AI. This one made me laugh because, does our life really sound like an AI story? Weird. I dunno what to tell you, if you believe this is all fake, then move along I don’t know lmao. Thank you to those who have given advice and support.

I think that’s all the stuff mentioned in the comments of my post, now on with the update.

In the morning I dropped the kids off at school and went to work, my older sibling stayed home in case my mom showed up. I got off at noon and we switched off so my older sibling went to work and I came home. My mom texted and told us that she would be here around 5 pm. We told her once again that we wouldn’t be letting her move in and that she needs to find somewhere else to go because it’s not here. She replied with a simple “don’t be like that.” And my older sibling told her “show up, the cops will be waiting” and she didn’t reply after that.

She showed up around 3 when it was just me and my uncle here and my uncle immediately stood up and walked out to talk to her. I called my older sibling and told them that she was here and my sibling told me to call the cops. I called the cops and went outside after that.

When I went outside I saw her screaming at my uncle and was telling him he couldn’t “keep her from her kids”. I stepped in and told her that no one was keeping us from her, it was OUR decision not wanting her here. She turned to me and told me not to talk like that to her. I told her I can and will talk to her however I want because she treated us however she wanted like when she wants to act like we were her kids only when it was convenient for her.

Of course she didn’t take this well and started getting mad saying we were being dramatic and that she didn’t do anything wrong. That she left us because she knew that we were more than old enough to handle ourselves. That she needed to be happy too. I sort of laughed at her and said “yeah? and how’d that work out?” This argument went on until my older sibling showed up with the younger siblings and they told her she had to leave and that the police were called.

My mom told them that she wasn’t going anywhere because she was our mom and she wasn’t going to let us “disrespect” her like this. My older sibling said that was fine and we could wait for the cops. My uncle tried to take the civil approach and told her she didn’t have to make this hard and she could just leave and stay somewhere else like my grandparents.

She didn’t take too kindly to that and once again, started cussing him out telling him to stay out of it and even went as far as slapping him. By this time, the kids were still in the car and were getting upset about all the screaming she was doing and I told her she needed to stop because she was upsetting the kids.

My older sibling quickly got the kids out and told me to bring them inside and stay with them. I took them inside and made sure to calm them down until the police arrived. I don’t know what exactly happened after that, I was watching from the window but couldn’t really hear anything and was told it was just more arguing on her part.

My older sibling told me that she also started harassing them because they’re nonbinary and said some not so nice words about them which really angered me. Eventually after about 10 minutes the police arrived and they asked what was happening and whatever and I went out because they wanted my side. So I told them and they asked for documents and my older sibling went inside to grab everything from their room.

The police looked over them and asked more questions and after that they told her she needed to leave and that it was up to my uncle if he wanted to press charges for the assault. That’s when she started crying and saying things like “I just want to be back with my kids” and started apologizing for everything she did but the police just kept saying “I know I know but we can’t do anything about that, if they don’t want you here then you can’t be here.” And things like that.

She eventually left and the cops asked if my uncle wanted to press charges and he said no it was fine. So that was that. They told us that if she shows up again to call and she’ll be arrested.

We don’t know where she is or if she’s coming back, hopefully not. Anyways yeah, that’s basically what happened.

Hi sorry if this is all over the place that’s how my head is at the moment.

My(20f) mom(41f) is wanting to move back with me and my siblings. I’ll try to keep it short but basically she and my stepdad got divorced in November of 2020 because he caught her texting another guy. It was messy and he ended up leaving that same night and we didn’t hear from him for a few months which I don’t blame him for since he was going through a lot (betrayal) and needed to process some things. He’s still very much supportive and takes care of us kids.

I say “step dad” just for the story but I do take him as my true dad. My bio dad wasn’t in the picture much at all and my step dad took me in as his own when I was a baby. So he is my dad. This is relevant because I feel some people might think I don’t have a close relationship with him, but I do. He’s the best and I love him. He treats me like his own

After that she left and moved in with said guy and has left us four siblings at home without any parental supervision and has been like that since. She was really horrible to us kids since she moved in with the guy and treated us like we were a burden, sometimes acting like we didn’t exist while she played “mommy” to his younger kids. Me and my older sibling had to step up and take care of us all (me up until I was legal age) but I helped.

When she left all she said was “there’s more than enough of you to rely on each other” and “you’ll get it when you’re older and have children of your own.”

Personally, I wouldn’t abandon my kids for an abusive guy. But maybe that’s just me. (Sarcasm)

She would come back sometimes, but it was only for a day or two to come and get clothes or if they got into a fight and then leave back to him who lives three to four hours away.

We got into a huge argument a few months ago when she and the guy broke up and he kicked her out for the billionth time and tried to guilt us saying “kids need their moms” and all that. I told her something along the lines of “when did you care about this five years ago when you left us claiming we’d understand when we were older? We’re older now and we still don’t understand how a woman can do that to her kids.”

After that she got mad and that’s where the argument started, she said some not so nice things about me and my siblings that I won’t repeat here but just know it was things a mother should never say to her kids. It ended with her going and staying at our grandparents and texting my older sibling and I guilt trips and playing victim that my grandparents told us to block her. But spoiler alert, she went right back to him a few days later.

After this my older sibling took her to court for custody of our younger siblings and the house and told her if she doesn’t hand over the kids or the house in their name peacefully, they’d out her in court and tell them what she’s been doing. Blackmail isn’t right I know. But it worked. My mom gave the house and the kids to my older sibling and claimed to be an unfit parent. That was it.

Now, she and the guy broke up and are apparently done for good as he’s thrown out all of her things, she got a new number and called my older sibling asking if she could have her room back in the house and she would “never leave us again”. We’ve already turned her room into the youngest’s and she likes her space. Obviously we told her no.

This is when she started playing the victim card and tried turning it around on us saying that we are mean and she’s “done everything for us kids” and that “our dad turned us against her”. We told her our dad doesn’t even talk about her anymore unless we bring her up and then she started getting mad saying we are “ungrateful brats” AGAIN, and that we should be thanking her for even giving us the house and not throwing us out like she wanted. She then proceeded to demand that we let her move in and that she wasn’t taking no for an answer, that she raised us and that she’s still the mom and has final say.

We threatened her and told her if she even tries anything, we would get the police involved, but so far, that hasn’t stopped her. She’s going to try and move in sometime tomorrow because all she said was “we’ll talk in person about this, see you soon. Love you.” and honestly don’t even know what to do if she does. I really hope she doesn’t go through with it so we don’t have to get the police involved but so far, that looks like where it’s going.

Today we changed the locks thanks to some advice.

Hi sorry if this is all over the place that’s how my head is at the moment.

My(20f) mom(41f) is wanting to move back with me and my siblings. I’ll try to keep it short but basically she and my stepdad got divorced in November of 2020 because he caught her texting another guy. It was messy and he ended up leaving that same night and we didn’t hear from him for a few months which I don’t blame him for since he was going through a lot (betrayal) and needed to process some things. He’s still very much supportive and takes care of us kids.

I say “step dad” just for the story but I do take him as my true dad. My bio dad wasn’t in the picture much at all and my step dad took me in as his own when I was a baby. So he is my dad. This is relevant because I feel some people might think I don’t have a close relationship with him, but I do. He’s the best and I love him. He treats me like his own

After that she left and moved in with said guy and has left us four siblings at home without any parental supervision and has been like that since. She was really horrible to us kids since she moved in with the guy and treated us like we were a burden, sometimes acting like we didn’t exist while she played “mommy” to his younger kids. Me and my older sibling had to step up and take care of us all (me up until I was legal age) but I helped.

When she left all she said was “there’s more than enough of you to rely on each other” and “you’ll get it when you’re older and have children of your own.”

Personally, I wouldn’t abandon my kids for an abusive guy. But maybe that’s just me. (Sarcasm)

She would come back sometimes, but it was only for a day or two to come and get clothes or if they got into a fight and then leave back to him who lives three to four hours away.

We got into a huge argument a few months ago when she and the guy broke up and he kicked her out for the billionth time and tried to guilt us saying “kids need their moms” and all that. I told her something along the lines of “when did you care about this five years ago when you left us claiming we’d understand when we were older? We’re older now and we still don’t understand how a woman can do that to her kids.”

After that she got mad and that’s where the argument started, she said some not so nice things about me and my siblings that I won’t repeat here but just know it was things a mother should never say to her kids. It ended with her going and staying at our grandparents and texting my older sibling and I guilt trips and playing victim that my grandparents told us to block her. But spoiler alert, she went right back to him a few days later.

After this my older sibling took her to court for custody of our younger siblings and the house and told her if she doesn’t hand over the kids or the house in their name peacefully, they’d out her in court and tell them what she’s been doing. Blackmail isn’t right I know. But it worked. My mom gave the house and the kids to my older sibling and claimed to be an unfit parent. That was it.

Now, she and the guy broke up and are apparently done for good as he’s thrown out all of her things, she got a new number and called my older sibling asking if she could have her room back in the house and she would “never leave us again”. We’ve already turned her room into the youngest’s and she likes her space. Obviously we told her no.

This is when she started playing the victim card and tried turning it around on us saying that we are mean and she’s “done everything for us kids” and that “our dad turned us against her”. We told her our dad doesn’t even talk about her anymore unless we bring her up and then she started getting mad saying we are “ungrateful brats” AGAIN, and that we should be thanking her for even giving us the house and not throwing us out like she wanted. She then proceeded to demand that we let her move in and that she wasn’t taking no for an answer, that she raised us and that she’s still the mom and has final say.

We threatened her and told her if she even tries anything, we would get the police involved, but so far, that hasn’t stopped her. She’s going to try and move in sometime today or tomorrow because all she said was “we’ll talk in person about this, see you soon. Love you.” and honestly don’t even know what to do if she does. I really hope she doesn’t go through with it so we don’t have to get the police involved but so far, that looks like where it’s going.

Hi, posting this here because I honestly don’t know what or how to say it to anyone in my life. Everyone thinks I’ve healed and moved on but sometimes it comes back to haunt me. This involves a series of bad choices poor judgment due to the impaired minds of those involved.

Sorry in advance if it seems all over the place, whenever I think about this incident, my mind goes funny.

Two years ago around this time (April) me and some cousins, there were about five of us, were drinking and the two sisters (26(I’ll call her Danny) and 19(let’s call her Steph) at the time, the legal drinking age is 18 here) got into a drunken argument outside. It turned physical and Danny hurt Steph pretty bad (piece of the nose was hanging off and chunks of hair were pulled out) and that set Steph off on a freak out.

We all pulled them apart but after that, Steph was freaking out because her older sister just attacked her which has never happened and all the emotions were high at the moment, she took off down the road with the car which was hers. It was clear her fight or flight mode kicked in. We all ran down the driveway to try stop her (which thinking back, idk what we thought that would accomplish, keep in mind, we were all drunk.) and Danny kept going on and on and didn’t care that she hurt Steph or that she was in the wrong. She believed she was justified.

Anyways, as we were at the end of the road(this house we were at was surrounded by no neighbours and full of back roads to get to it), we were slowly making our way back to the house from the end of the driveway we were all in shock about the incident since physical fights never happened when we drank let alone between Danny and Steph and the fact that she just took off in the car while drunk. The whole time I was just sort of pissed off at myself for not making sure the keys were inside away from us, and the fact that I didn’t even know she still had her keys in her pocket.

As we were walking we heard her car zooming back down the road towards us and the driveway faster than you should go on a gravel road. They didn’t pay too much mind to it as they were still talking about the whole incident but I watched as she sped down and wasn’t stopping when she got closer and I thought “oh sh\*t, she’s not slowing down.” And as she got closer to the turn of the driveway, she drifted when she turned and that’s when I quickly ran behind the fence just in time and she hit the other three.

Thankfully I didn’t see anything with them getting hit as I was turned away, but I did hear it, at first they were talking then once they were hit, it was dead silent. I stood there in shock for a few seconds in a “did that really just happen..?” Way. It was like everything went slow motion in that moment. I was scared to turn around to see the condition of them all. Then I heard Steph scream after a few seconds of stunned silence from the car. That’s what snapped me back to reality and I turned around and quickly checked on everyone.

Long story short no one died. Thank God. The EMS and police were called. Danny was the one who was more seriously injured than the other two with a back injury and head injury both of which she needed surgery on and was brought to the hospital by stars. The other two, one had to get stitches by her eye and the other didn’t have any injuries, just a bruised back. They were all transported to the hospital.

Since then none of us has touched alcohol. Danny and Steph made up after some time and care still close.

After all this, I went to therapy to learn how to deal with the PTSD, I didn’t want to at first because I thought I didn’t need it and thought it was selfish to get “help” for an accident I wasn’t physically involved in. I wasn’t hurt, so why should I be acting like I was involved, right? Just my thoughts at the time. It was about them, not me.

It feels like therapy didn’t work though.

I’ve expressed my feelings to my mom and grandpa and they said to think of it as God being on my side that night and I should be thankful I wasn’t hurt. But that just made me feel worse. Why me? Why did he protect me and not them? Is this a lesser form of “survivors guilt”? It still confuses me. And it also didn’t help that after the accident, when other people heard about it, so many people reached out to me and asked if I was okay knowing I wasn’t physically hurt like the others. It just felt kinda bad that people were checking up on me when I wasn’t the one hurt.

Everyone has moved on and I thought I was too but every time I see something about an accident whether it be a movie or in real life, I feel sick to my stomach. And the anniversary of the accident is coming up doesn’t help. I want to talk to someone about it but I honestly don’t know how to bring it up. But it still very much bothers me.

If you have any questions or are confused about anything please feel free to ask and I’ll clear them up.