u/No-Sweet-6876

My fiancé and I are staying at the Hilton Vacation Club in Ka’anapali this September (16th–22nd) for our honeymoon, and we are so excited! Neither of us has ever been to Hawaii before, so we honestly don’t know where to start when it comes to planning activities, food spots, and must-see places.

We love things like hiking, waterfalls, sunsets, trying new foods, zoos/aquariums, scenic drives, and really anything that gets us out of our comfort zone or lets us experience the island. Since we’ll be staying right on Ka’anapali Beach, I’d love recommendations for:

• Things to do nearby
• Must-see spots/excursions
• Favorite restaurants or local food places
• Best beaches/sunset spots
• Any hidden gems or experiences you’d recommend for first-time visitors

We’re also trying to be somewhat mindful of our budget, so any tips for keeping costs reasonable while still having an amazing experience would be super appreciated too.

And lastly, if you have any general first-time Hawaii/Maui tips, I would love to hear them.

My Fiance and I are getting married this fall. The wedding planning process started off simple, as we wanted to ease into things. We originally wanted something small, but with his mother suggesting that they have SO many family members - she told us that we should take that into consideration. So, we did. Our guest list continued to grow because she had more distant relatives and “friends” that she wanted to invite. We had to put a stop to it because she was getting out of hand, and trying to take control over the guest list. She demanded we send it to her and let her confirm who’s all coming.

Well, this is when we decided to put our foot down and take control over the list. Which we honestly been should have done. So she starts going around gossiping saying we are leaving her out and doing everything without her. My Fiance got annoyed by this and continued to let her know that we are making our own decisions with this wedding. Then she starts to get angry that we are booking vendors on our own and not going with her preferred vendors. Mind you, her preferred vendors are her “friends” or “friends of friends” or people that we don’t know. Haven’t even seen their work. Just her word of mouth. So of course, we didn’t consider that and went with our own choice of DJ, photographer, planner, etc. Well of course, she didn’t like that. Apparently she was then going around telling everyone in the family that I’m basically making him do all these things and he wouldn’t be acting this way if it wasn’t for me. Now, we get to the worse part.

About a month ago we move into our new place, she insists of flying in town to come and help us. Cool. She comes and starts complaining about how our old place is a mess and how I need to do better as a woman and take care of the house. She says alot more along those lines. Naturally he stands up for me and tells her she’s out of line. She said “oh you get so defensive everytime I say something to her” - well of course. He’s my Fiance.

Anyways, the whole time she was here she would just complain and say slick little remarks such as “you guys are being so secretive about the wedding planning” “maybe if you were trying to hide everything about the wedding then you wouldn’t be spending so much money and going broke” and things like that. I responded to this comment and said “we chose the vendors that we wanted because we wanted to go with them. We don’t want to just book random people.” She gets angry at this saying (in an aggressive tone) things like “my people aren’t just anybody, I know how to plan a damn wedding” and other nasty comments.

Then not too long after that, my Fiance and her get into a HUGE argument. It was over something so small (because he wanted to buy moving boxes and she preferred we try and get them for free on marketplace). Stupid, I know. But she got so angry with this. Don’t know why. Still don’t.

She then goes on about how messy our place is, how we can’t take criticism, how we are too sensitive, and then randomly starts talking about my weight and how I lost weight too fast and did it in an unhealthy way. Mind you, it took me two years to lose 80 pounds. Not sure where she got that from, or why she even said it in that moment.

We then take her back to her hotel because she claimed she was going to fly home. She texts our group chat thread and says since we don’t want her help she is leaving, and her new flight is tomorrow. We ignored it. Then she sends long messages of the same BS to the chat. And then she messages me individually saying most of the things above. But goes into detail about how her son was raised better then to have a messy home, that must have came from me. She also says things about how I must be taking medication for weight loss and how “we all know that’s not good” just weird stuff… and it also just isn’t true.

Well, after this mean message she sent me - I blocked her. On everything.

But guess what? She doesn’t leave. She lied about her flight being changed. She just wanted a reaction… she stayed the whole time and still got on our nerves.

You think this was my breaking point? Well; I have more.

Today my Fiance told me that his mom called his best friend’s mom and put him on three-way with her. So all three of them are on this phone call. His mother then tells her about how we are leaving her out, not letting her invite her friends, and not including her in the planning. My BF got so angry. This was so out of line. And just childish! At this point I want nothing to do with her.

My Fiance is such an amazing man, and he has changed my life for the better. I hate that this is what we are dealing with.

I’m feeling really stressed right now. I have three bridesmaid and one maid of honor which is my sister. My sister is on a 8 month trip to Asia right now so she has not helped with my wedding planning at all and I just feel lost on everything when it comes to my wedding party.

They all got their dresses, shoes, etc so that part is fine. But we barely talk in our group chat and I don’t think any of us really know how to go about discussing my wedding. Oh I shouldn’t mention - im getting married in less than 4 months. Our bachelorette party is not planned and I’ve brought up the conversation a few times but don’t really know how to go about it. Simply because aren’t the girls supposed to be planning it? 3/4 of them have never been in a wedding party because so maybe there is also some confusion on their end about their role in my wedding.

I tried not to overwhelm them and put so many things on them, and I hate making people go out of their way for me but I’ve been feeling alone in this planning process. Idk if this is normal. The biggest issue right now is not knowing how to go about the bachelorette party. Do I ask them to plan it? Should I ask one of them to organize the planning? Do I do it??

Please no hate, I’m just genuinely confused and overwhelmed right now and I just need support and guidance.

So I’ve been in a fitness journey since December 2023. I lost 80 pounds since then and I feel that I’ve made a good amount of progress. My goal was to be 130 pounds (in 5’5, female, 27 years old).

However, since Christmas I’ve been stuck at 140. Sometimes I’ll go under at 139 but never lower than that. It’s a little discouraging since I lift 3x a week, run 3x a week, and eat relatively clean. I’ve been at a deficit (atleast I think I have) since the beginning of my fitness journey. Sometimes I’ll eat over my deficit; but as of lately I’ve just been stuck. I started out with 1,400 a day, which worked for a while. Then it just stopped working.

Then I increased my calories because I felt like I wasn’t eating enough, which was around 1,600 calories. Now I’m eating a little more than that because I feel that maybe my calories are too low and my body is holding onto fat? Idk anymore. Maybe I’m not in a deficit like I think I am.

I don’t know if I should go lower with calories again or just let the weight loss thing go at this point. It’s been almost 5 months and still not close to my goal of 130. Maybe I’m looking at this whole thing wrong. Idk. Help, idk what to do