u/Nice-Intern5510

Does anyone miss the good old days when you could be anywhere (a basement, an elevator, stuck in a snowstorm or even a hurricane) and still have service? Don’t you miss being able to picnic with loved ones or walk your dog without worrying about losing signal?

And who could forget those really convenient moments like sneaking around with a married man, only for his partner to walk in, and you dash into the closet… still with perfect service?

I grew up without having any friends. I grew up in a dysfunctional household and was sexually abused so I never had the opportunity to make friends as a kid. I’m 37 years old and I’m learning in my adulthood how to make them by putting myself out there but I feel like it’s always an issue. When I hit my late 20’s going into my 30’s i stopped feeling lonely and learned to enjoy my own company. Yes i know people who are acquaintances but I never considered them a friend. I do have one friend but the rest are people who i say hi and bye too. I would like to expand my world by making new friends.

what i look for in a friendship

consistency: someone who doesn’t disappear and reappear randomly. Communication and effort feel stable & not confusing.

Emotional availability: someone who can talk about real things and not just surface topics. Someone who doesn’t avoids or shuts down deeper conversations.

Mutual effort: we both are carrying the connection and it’s not just one sided. that means both parties reach out, make plans and show care.

Respect & awareness: they are mindful of me, my boundaries & feelings. they accept accountability when they are wrong.

Honesty: Their words match their actions. No mixed signals or unnecessary confusion

Growth/depth potential: friendships that can expand and evolve beyond just activities so that way there’s room for trust, understanding and real connections over time.

I’m gay. every time I try to make friends with people within my own community it’s always an issue because I want friendships and they want something else. I’m the type of person that prefers to take walks, go to the movies, read, write, listen to music. I’m the type of person that doesn’t like to travel much. I prefer to stay home on weekends and just watch the golden girls re-runs. I don’t drink or smoke. I love animals. I love helping others. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong