▲ 45 r/Haryana

Although I already posted it in 3 other subreddits but I always post it here also so here we go:

I had two things I loved about myself

My favorite food And my hair

The food went first. Someone at home couldn't stand watching me eat it. So I stopped. Just like that

Today it was the hair. Months of "your hair is everywhere." Taking away my shampoo bottle the night before. Watching me oil it and saying "let's see how you wash it now." Constant. Relentless

So I cut it. Both ponytails. Years of growth. I haven't had short hair since I was 8 years old

I'm donating them to an NGO for cancer patients. That's the only thing making me feel okay about this right now

But I feel like I lost myself today. Not just hair. A piece of who I am. Something that was mine

And the worst part? I did it to myself. With my own hands. Because I just couldn't take it anymore

I feel so stuck. So hollow

The pain of losing something you loved about yourself just to survive the people around you

I don't know how to even begin to cope

u/New_Operation7561 — 12 days ago

▲ 154 r/PataHaiAajKyaHua

Pata hai aaj kya hua

I had two things I loved about myself

My favorite food And my hair

The food went first. Someone at home couldn't stand watching me eat it. So I stopped. Just like that

Today it was the hair. Months of "your hair is everywhere." Taking away my shampoo bottle the night before. Watching me oil it and saying "let's see how you wash it now." Constant. Relentless

So I cut it. Both ponytails. Years of growth. I haven't had short hair since I was 8 years old

I'm donating them to an NGO for cancer patients. That's the only thing making me feel okay about this right now

But I feel like I lost myself today. Not just hair. A piece of who I am. Something that was mine

And the worst part? I did it to myself. With my own hands. Because I just couldn't take it anymore

I feel so stuck. So hollow

The pain of losing something you loved about yourself just to survive the people around you

I don't know how to even begin to cope

u/New_Operation7561 — 12 days ago

▲ 55 r/TwentiesIndia

I had two things I loved about myself

My favorite food And my hair

The food went first. Someone at home couldn't stand watching me eat it. So I stopped. Just like that

Today it was the hair. Months of "your hair is everywhere." Taking away my shampoo bottle the night before. Watching me oil it and saying "let's see how you wash it now." Constant. Relentless

So I cut it. Both ponytails. Years of growth. I haven't had short hair since I was 8 years old

I'm donating them to an NGO for cancer patients. That's the only thing making me feel okay about this right now

But I feel like I lost myself today. Not just hair. A piece of who I am. Something that was mine

And the worst part? I did it to myself. With my own hands. Because I just couldn't take it anymore

I feel so stuck. So hollow

The pain of losing something you loved about yourself just to survive the people around you

I don't know how to even begin to cope

u/New_Operation7561 — 12 days ago

▲ 389 r/indiasocial

I had two things I loved about myself

My favorite food And my hair

The food went first. Someone at home couldn't stand watching me eat it. So I stopped. Just like that

Today it was the hair. Months of "your hair is everywhere." Taking away my shampoo bottle the night before. Watching me oil it and saying "let's see how you wash it now." Constant. Relentless

So I cut it. Both ponytails. Years of growth. I haven't had short hair since I was 8 years old

I'm donating them to an NGO for cancer patients. That's the only thing making me feel okay about this right now

But I feel like I lost myself today. Not just hair. A piece of who I am. Something that was mine

And the worst part? I did it to myself. With my own hands. Because I just couldn't take it anymore

I feel so stuck. So hollow

The pain of losing something you loved about yourself just to survive the people around you

I don't know how to even begin to cope

u/New_Operation7561 — 12 days ago

▲ 19 r/Haryana

19F here

I have been dealing with this for as long as I remember

Family background

• My parents have a 12 year age gap • My mother has no father or brother, only sisters • My father faced no pressure or accountability from her side • He lied about his education and age before marriage • He is an alcoholic and physically abusive

My mother

• Got married at 19 • Had me within the first year • Works as a contractual teacher at MCD • Financial instability stops her from leaving him

My father

• Abusive at home, especially towards my mother and younger brother • Does not show the same aggression outside • People owe him large amounts of money, 30 to 40 lakhs each, around 6 to 7 people • He has never confronted them the way he treats us

About my younger brother

• He is in 7th grade • We have an 8 year age gap • I have seen him grow up in front of my eyes • I love him a lot and I do not want him to ruin his future

Current situation

• Today, his teacher called saying he grabbed a classmate by the neck and punched him • The other child fell on the floor • Last year in 6th grade, he had 4 similar complaints • In one case, a parent escalated it to the Headmistress

What we did earlier

• My mother scolded and even hit him • My father suggested removing him from school • My mother somehow convinced him to continue

What I notice in my brother

• No fear of consequences • No concern about losing his education • No visible guilt or accountability • No sense of apology

Parents blaming each other

• Mother says his alcoholism and abuse are affecting the kids • Says no one respects an alcoholic • Believes this is why both children are getting affected • Father says my mother creates conflict over small things • Blames her behavior for the situation

What is happening now

• My father plans to remove my brother from school tomorrow • My mother cannot stop him on her own • I have a college viva at 9 AM • I will not be at home to calm down things or even get in between if things turn violent

I feel stuck. I do not know what to do next

P.S.: I have used AI to put all of these details together

I have also posted this on India Social. I am posting here as well because both my parents are from Haryana, while I grew up in Delhi

Our roots are still strongly connected there, and the mindset and family dynamics are influenced by that background

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u/New_Operation7561 — 17 days ago