I keep coming across the same type leaving the type. One partner is hardworking and pulls all the weight while the other exists oblivious to the hard work required to maintain life. This is rhe relationship dynamic of my STBX and I.
He is utterly oblivious to hard work and feels entitled to others doing FOR him with no effort on his part. He continues to think that he has been cheated by life when in fact he is the only one to blame for not putting any effort into achieving anything. It's like he has always viewed himself as a rich trust fund kid instead of a working class kid, like he was raised. In my childhood I experienced being poor, middle class and upper class as my parents worked hard to climb the ladder. My STBX was always middle class but his parents were private school teachers and he got free tuition as a result so he grew up surrounded by your classic upper class trust fund babies. Maybe that's why he is this way? But that can't be everyone's story and there's a lot of people divorcing in the same position.
It's made me question things....like what's wrong with me that I didn't spot this behavior pattern earlier? Is there a cultural phenomenon I am unaware of? Is this as prevalent in society as it appears? Is it a generational thing? What's actually happening that creates this dynamic? And most importantly, how do I protect myself from inviting more people like this into my inner circle?