u/New_Cover_3834

I’m 19 and my mom perceives me as antisocial not remotely empathetic. In reality, I’ve been told by friends and friends of family members how outgoing, I am funny and extroverted. I truly believe that if my parents saw me the way I am with them they would be completely shocked and have no clue who I am. For context both of my parents have been emotionally and physically abuse at one point. My parents have been going through a divorce however, my mom seems to be taking it a little harder. She’s currently battling for her life due to cancer and other health problems. I feel bad but I also feel like my emotions are being dismissed in the middle. She asked me to pick a side. I said no. That I would remain neutral as any person should (depending on the situation). My dad has moved to another state now and my mom seems to be mad at me only for some reason. For a little more context, lol I am the youngest of four boys and the only girl! My mom told me “you need to move out or pick a side”. So I told her I’d be staying with a friend for a few days and then she seemed to get upset that I actually was gonna leave??? she said many more hurtful things and has lied to me about doing things to other family members, causing more drama, but I dismissed it because I thought she was going through a rough time but now it seems like she’s being manipulative. She too has been emotionally physically abused by my father but now I feel like she does the same to us and she gets a pass because she’s “going through a rough time” She called me randomly asking why I don’t love her and why I don’t understand. I still love both my parents, but I have no empathy for their actions or choices. Feel as if they both use the excuse that they didn’t know better and that they’re sorry but it feels like a never-ending cycle and I feel like they’ll just do it all over again once I forgive. I’m only 19 and I feel like I’m 30. Back to my main reason they don’t know me at all. They couldn’t even tell you my favorite color… but they get upset when I don’t talk to them. Am I wrong?

I’m 19 and my mom perceives me as antisocial not remotely empathetic. In reality, I’ve been told by friends and friends of family members how outgoing, I am funny and extroverted. I truly believe that if my parents saw me the way I am with them they would be completely shocked and have no clue who I am. For context both of my parents have been emotionally and physically abuse at one point. My parents have been going through a divorce however, my mom seems to be taking it a little harder. I feel bad but I also feel like my emotions are being dismissed in the middle. She asked me to pick a side. I said no. That I would remain neutral as any person should (depending on the situation). My dad has moved to another state now and my mom seems to be mad at me only for some reason. For a little more context, lol I am the youngest of four boys and the only girl! My mom told me “you need to move out or pick a side”. So I told her I’d be staying with a friend for a few days and then she seemed to get upset that I actually was gonna leave??? she said many more hurtful things and has lied to me about doing things to other family members, causing more drama, but I dismissed it because I thought she was going through a rough time but now it seems like she’s being manipulative. She too has been emotionally physically abused by my father but now I feel like she does the same to us and she gets a pass because she’s “going through a rough time” She called me randomly asking why I don’t love her and why I don’t understand. I still love both my parents, but I have no empathy for their actions or choices. Feel as if they both use the excuse that they didn’t know better and that they’re sorry but it feels like a never-ending cycle and I feel like they’ll just do it all over again once I forgive. I’m only 19 and I feel like I’m 30. Back to my main reason they don’t know me at all. They couldn’t even tell you my favorite color… but they get upset when I don’t talk to them.