u/New-Butterfly8095

Today I was sitting on my scooty waiting for someone when this random dog walked past me. I had never seen him before and obviously he had never seen me before either.

I have this habit of calling every dog I see, so I just looked at him and went “aaja” very casually. I genuinely thought he’d ignore me and continue walking, but instead he immediately came toward me.

I started giving him head scratches and within seconds he became completely comfortable with me. Every time I stopped scratching him, he’d softly push his head back into my hand like he was asking me to continue.

And then the cutest part happened 😭

After a few minutes, he literally hopped onto the front part of my scooty and just sat there while I kept petting him. He stayed with me like that for almost 15 minutes.

Bhaii bestt ekdum bestt😭💗💗🤌I forgot to click pictures of him😭

So I’m genuinely confused about a guy and I need outside opinions because my brain is going in circles.

I knew this guy in June 2024. We talked for some time, got emotionally and physically involved, and honestly when I was with him, I genuinely felt like he liked me.

But after some time, his behavior changed. He became distant and inconsistent. At one point I was literally begging him to talk to me and feeling unwanted. He did have some family problems going on at that time (which later got verified as true), but regardless, the situation hurt me badly and I eventually stopped talking to him completely.

Now here’s the confusing part.

About a month after I cut contact, he started trying to reach out again. And not just casually. Since January 2025 till now (May 2026), he has continuously tried to reconnect with me. I changed my number at one point and he still tried finding ways to contact me:

- asked mutual friends,

- asked his cousin (who knew me),

- tried calling from different numbers,

- even tried using a bank transfer/contact trace situation to reach me.

Basically, he never fully stopped trying.

Recently I finally started talking to him again after more than a year. And his behavior now feels COMPLETELY different from before:

- he calls me himself constantly,

- video calls me,

- updates me throughout the day,

- includes me in random things he’s doing,

- sends me videos/photos while out with friends,

- talks to me in front of his friends openly,

- reassures me naturally,

- remembers details,

- notices when I disappear for a few hours,

- talks to me for hours without me forcing conversation.

For example:

- he went to an IPL match and kept video calling/texting me from there,

- he went to Starbucks and got my name written on a cup beside his,

- if I say goodnight early, he asks me to stay and talk more,

- if I don’t reply, he checks on me calmly instead of getting angry,

- when I said I don’t want to meet him, he immediately video called me and we ended up talking for more than an hour.

The confusing thing is that THIS is the same guy who once made me feel like I was begging for attention.

And now I genuinely cannot understand:

- Was he always serious but emotionally immature back then?

- Did losing me change him?

- Is this genuine regret and effort?

- Or am I slowly falling into emotional manipulation without realizing it?

One important thing: right now I’m not even in a relationship with him. I’ve clearly told him I only want friendship for now, and he still continues talking to me consistently.

So I want honest opinions from people who are emotionally objective:

Does this sound like someone who genuinely cared but handled things badly in the past?

Or does this sound like someone love-bombing/manipulating after reconnecting?

I knew this guy in June 2024. We talked for some time, got emotionally and physically involved, and honestly when I was with him, I genuinely felt like he liked me. He was soft with me, caring, affectionate, and emotionally warm in certain moments. One thing that stayed in my mind was that after the first time we slept together, while leaving he kissed my forehead and it felt very genuine and comforting.

But after some time, his behavior changed. He became distant and inconsistent. At one point I was literally begging him to talk to me and feeling unwanted. He did have family problems going on at that time (which later turned out to be true), but regardless, the situation hurt me badly and eventually I completely stopped talking to him.

Then something strange happened.

About a month after I cut contact, he started trying to reconnect with me. And not casually either. Since January 2025 till now (May 2026), he has continuously tried reaching out. I changed my number at one point and he still tried finding ways to contact me:

- through mutual friends,

- through his cousin who knew me,

- through different numbers,

- even through a bank transfer/contact situation once.

Basically he never completely disappeared.

Recently I finally started talking to him again after more than a year, and his behavior now feels completely different from the person I remember from back then.

Now he:

- calls me himself constantly,

- video calls me,

- updates me throughout the day,

- includes me in random things he’s doing,

- notices if I disappear for a few hours,

- remembers small details,

- talks to me in front of his friends openly,

- reassures me naturally,

- talks to me for hours without me forcing conversation.

He went to an IPL match recently and kept video calling/texting me from there. He went to Starbucks and got my name written on a cup beside his. If I say goodnight early, he asks me to stay and talk more. If I don’t reply, he checks on me calmly instead of getting angry. Even when I told him I don’t want a relationship right now and only want friendship, he still continued talking to me normally and consistently.

The weirdest part is that this is the same person I once begged for attention from.

I think that’s why my brain is struggling to process the change. Because a part of me had already convinced itself that maybe I never mattered that much to him. But then I look at the fact that he spent more than a year trying to reconnect and now behaves like this, and it genuinely feels emotionally confusing.

Right now I’m just observing everything slowly because I genuinely cannot tell whether this is a person who always cared but handled things terribly before, or whether losing someone really changes people this much.

So I’m genuinely confused about a guy and I need outside opinions because my brain is going in circles.

I knew this guy in June 2024. We talked for some time, got emotionally and physically involved, and honestly when I was with him, I genuinely felt like he liked me. He was soft with me, caring, affectionate, etc. One thing that stayed in my mind was that after the first time we slept together, while leaving he kissed my forehead and it felt very genuine and comforting.

But after some time, his behavior changed. He became distant and inconsistent. At one point I was literally begging him to talk to me and feeling unwanted. He did have some family problems going on at that time (which later got verified as true), but regardless, the situation hurt me badly and I eventually stopped talking to him completely.

Now here’s the confusing part.

About a month after I cut contact, he started trying to reach out again. And not just casually. Since January 2025 till now (May 2026), he has continuously tried to reconnect with me. I changed my number at one point and he still tried finding ways to contact me:

asked mutual friends,

asked his cousin (who knew me),

tried calling from different numbers,

even tried using a bank transfer/contact trace situation to reach me.

Basically, he never fully stopped trying.

Recently I finally started talking to him again after more than a year. And his behavior now feels COMPLETELY different from before:

he calls me himself constantly,

video calls me,

updates me throughout the day,

includes me in random things he’s doing,

sends me videos/photos while out with friends,

talks to me in front of his friends openly,

reassures me naturally,

remembers details,

notices when I disappear for a few hours,

talks to me for hours without me forcing conversation.

For example:

he went to an IPL match and kept video calling/texting me from there,

he went to Starbucks and got my name written on a cup beside his,

if I say goodnight early, he asks me to stay and talk more,

if I don’t reply, he checks on me calmly instead of getting angry,

when I said I don’t want to meet him, he immediately video called me and we ended up talking for more than an hour.

The confusing thing is that THIS is the same guy who once made me feel like I was begging for attention.

And now I genuinely cannot understand:

Was he always serious but emotionally immature back then?

Did losing me change him?

Is this genuine regret and effort?

Or am I slowly falling into emotional manipulation without realizing it?

One important thing: right now I’m not even in a relationship with him. I’ve clearly told him I only want friendship for now, and he still continues talking to me consistently.

So I want honest opinions from people who are emotionally objective: Does this sound like someone who genuinely cared but handled things badly in the past? Or does this sound like someone love-bombing/manipulating after reconnecting?