u/Never_Pray_To_Me

A few years ago, I hit a point where everything started collapsing.

Stress, bad habits, poor decisions, burnout, addiction, health problems — it all stacked up until I couldn’t ignore it anymore.

I kept thinking I needed motivation to fix it.

I didn’t.

What I actually needed was discipline in its simplest form.

Not some perfect routine.
Not a massive life overhaul.
Just something I could repeat when I felt at my lowest.

So I built something simple: Street Therapy (a unique way to physically, mentally and in life recover and transform and its details are shared online) : Im not selling anything BTW, just sharing for free what i learned and what helped me get disciplined in life.

1. Move every day
Not for performance — just to move. Walking, light training, anything.
This became the anchor. Even on bad days, I did something.

2. Sit with your thoughts
No phone. No music. No escape.
Just time to think properly.
This is where most of my realisations came from.

3. Be brutally honest with yourself
No blaming. No avoiding.
Just asking: what am I actually doing that’s keeping me stuck?

4. Do one uncomfortable thing daily
Something small but meaningful.
A hard conversation, a task you’ve been avoiding, a promise you need to keep.

5. Repeat — especially when you don’t want to
This is the part most people miss.
The system only works if you stick to it on the days you feel low.

6. Realise you’re not uniquely broken — but you are responsible
Everyone is dealing with something. Everyone has habits, patterns, or damage they’re working through.
The difference isn’t who’s broken — it’s who takes control.
Nothing changes until the person at the centre of it decides to act.

Over time, this did more for me than motivation ever did.

It built consistency, resilience, and a way to rebuild instead of just thinking about rebuilding.

And for anyone wondering whether this is just theory — it isn’t. My own recovery and Street Therapy approach have been covered by the BBC and Cornwall Live as proof that this system worked in real life for me - just search for street therapy on google.

It’s not perfect. It’s not fancy.

But it works because it’s simple enough to follow when life isn’t.

If you’re stuck right now, don’t wait to feel ready.

Build something small you can repeat — and start there.

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u/Never_Pray_To_Me — 12 days ago

I’ve been thinking a lot about something you don’t really see talked about properly in self-improvement…

Everyone talks about success.
Very few people talk honestly about the fall.

Burnout.
Addiction.
Illness.
Losing your identity.

And more importantly — what actually comes after that.

The part where you have to rebuild yourself from scratch.

Over the past few weeks, I’ve been having conversations with people who’ve been through it — properly through it.

People who’ve lost everything in different ways and had to figure out how to come back.

Some of the stories are about addiction and recovery.
Some are about illness and identity collapsing.
Some are about self-sabotage, burnout, and completely changing direction in life.

But what’s been consistent across all of them is this:

👉 change isn’t clean
👉 growth isn’t linear
👉 and the “comeback” is usually built in quiet, uncomfortable moments no one sees

A lot of it comes down to learning how to sit with yourself, rebuild your mindset, and take small physical and mental steps forward again — something I’ve come to call “Street Therapy” (basically real-world, no-nonsense recovery through movement, mindset, and honest reflection).

I’m UK-based, been through my own version of collapse, and now spend a lot of time trying to help others rebuild — but honestly, I learn just as much from the people I speak to as anything else.

If you’re in that place right now — rebuilding, stuck, or just trying to make sense of things — you’re not alone in it.

If you do want to explore some of those conversations, I’ve put them here:

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheAfterTheFallShow
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0yLOi5SSKm3HOfn574OeT9
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/after-the-fall-show/id1889279603

And the broader idea behind it (Street Therapy):
http://www.streettherapy.co.uk

Main site: http://www.afterthefallshow.com

No pressure at all to click — just sharing in case it helps someone.

I’d actually be more interested to hear:

👉 what was your “fall” moment, and what helped you start climbing back out?

And if you’ve got a story like that — something you’ve come through, rebuilt from, or are still working through — I’m always open to hearing it.

That’s really what all of this is about.

u/Never_Pray_To_Me — 12 days ago

I wanted to share a story that stuck with me because it’s not just about illness — it’s about identity and how quickly life can flip.

I recently spoke to someone called Zorosa. At the start, she was like a lot of people — fun-loving, building a social media presence, enjoying attention, trying to look good and fit in.

But over time, that need to be seen and validated started to pull her away from who she actually was.

Then everything changed.

She was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes, her health declined, and she ended up on dialysis — spending hours every week hooked up to a machine, waiting for a compatible organ.

And that’s the part that really hit me.

When you’re sitting there for hours at a time with nothing but your thoughts, there’s nowhere to hide. It forced her to slow down, reflect, and really confront who she was and how she’d been living.

Eventually she went through a kidney transplant, but the bigger shift wasn’t just physical — it was mental and emotional.

She spoke really openly about self-sabotage, trying to fit in, losing herself, and then finding faith and purpose on the other side of it all.

I know there are people on here dealing with chronic illness, recovery, or just trying to figure themselves out — so I thought I’d share it in case it helps someone feel less alone.

No agenda, just a real story.

If anyone does want to hear the full conversation:

YouTube: https://youtu.be/AxEVruPRuFI?si=Z9oIbMXv0DOMlwqu

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4tIEE6Tw4DagrSVob5Yzl6?si=19af1215ba414e23

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/faith-and-identity-through-kidney-failure-and/id1889279603?i=1000760360339

u/Never_Pray_To_Me — 12 days ago

Hi everyone,

I hope it’s okay to share this here — I’m not posting to promote anything, just to pass on something that genuinely stayed with me.

I recently had a conversation with a man called Terry who was told he had a rare form of melanoma (acral melanoma) and likely only had around two years to live.

That was 14 years ago.

Since then, he’s been through surgeries, treatments, amputation, and more challenges than most people will ever face — and he’s still here, still fighting, and still helping others.

What stayed with me wasn’t just his story, but how he approached it:

- focusing on small steps when everything felt overwhelming

- having something to look forward to, even when told he might not get there

- leaning on support instead of shutting down

- and finding a way to live with uncertainty

I know everyone’s journey is different, and I’m not trying to compare situations — but if this gives even one person a bit of strength or perspective, then it’s worth sharing.

If anyone wants to listen, I’ve included the links below — but equally, just take the message itself.

🎧 YouTube:

https://youtu.be/M6wvOjvkWaM?si=gmqwvld-4avj9kH1

🎧 Spotify:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/47jSssRVRnRSVliuls4HyT?si=qMP6DfBDRCOM3oXfyF5PJA

🎧 Apple Podcasts:

https://podcasts.apple.com/ug/podcast/cancer-adversity-and-living-beyond-a-death/id1889279603?i=1000765747233

Wishing strength to anyone going through something tough — you’re not alone.

Hope this helps somebody.

u/Never_Pray_To_Me — 12 days ago

I’m sharing this because I think the discussion may be relevant here.

I’ve just put out a new episode of After The Fall Show where I was lucky enough to have Rob from Adeptus Psychonautica — someone many people in the psychedelic and DMT space will already know from YouTube.

It starts with childhood trauma and resilience, then moves into DMT, spirituality, mythology, healing, and the idea that if you go exploring deeply — whether through life, trauma, or altered states — you need some kind of guiding star so you do not lose yourself.

What I liked about this conversation is that it doesn’t feel like hype. It feels reflective, honest, and very human. It gets into meaning, suffering, healing, and the difference between having an experience and actually doing the work afterwards.

YouTube: https://youtu.be/hcVvhP5NAI8?si=6fyXhKst9sZQrN19
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1ckc4EJmvBBcqez9hcRj2C?si=f9e1adab60714f16
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dmt-trauma-spirituality-and-finding-a-north-star-rob/id1889279603?i=1000760954482

Main show: www.afterthefallshow.com

The wider philosophy behind the show is Street Therapy, created by Icarus — essentially a raw, lived-experience way of thinking about recovery, reinvention, and finding your feet again when life has knocked you sideways. More on that here if it’s of interest: www.streettherapy.co.uk

Would be genuinely interested in what people here make of the “North Star” idea, especially when it comes to trauma, spirituality, or psychedelic experience.

I hope this finds someone who is interested and it may be helpful too.

u/Never_Pray_To_Me — 1 month ago