u/Natural_Price5536

Salam. I am recently looking for a house to buy as it is time to upsize for me and my family. Now I have a decent amount saved but we desperately need to move. I am going to borrow off of my uncle as he told me when the time comes to borrow from him because he can let me pay it off in more time. Now my wife from her previous career before we had kids and before she met me she had a good amount of money saved up. She kept offering for me to use her money but I always turned her down. Then out of nowhere when I said I was borrowing from my uncle it became a massive argument about her saying I think she’s inferior compared to me and that’s why I won’t borrow off of her which isn’t the case. I have no issue with my wife. I just don’t want to owe her money that’s all I don’t see her as lower than me or anything.

This deeply upset her to the point where she has been ignoring me for 2 weeks only when she HAS to talk to me she will talk to me. I’ve tried to have a talk with her multiple times and speak with her but every time I am just met with distance which makes me feel quite uncomfortable. When her family comes over to my house she makes silly remarks and says stuff like he doesn’t like it when a woman does what a man is meant to do. I just laugh it off as if it is a joke but she’s causing a serious problem now.

I tried to speak to her at one point and she just kept saying I’m going to buy my own house as if it is out of spite because I don’t want her money. She can do what she likes with her money but none of it concerns me. She tries to tease me In front of her brothers by telling them to look for houses within her budget and they turn around and say aren’t you looking for a bigger house (it’s known that we are looking to upsize) and then it just gets awkward.

She is just making herself look very silly and I’m not sure how to go forward.

EDIT: the reason I don’t want to borrow the money from her is she’s very wishy washy she’ll let me borrow but then later on she’ll say I could’ve done this by now but instead I chose to do this for you etc etc. When she does me favours she’ll hold them over my head for the next few years. That’s one of the reasons I don’t want to borrow from her. It’s a minor issue but it gets very annoying.

Salam. I am recently looking for a house to buy as it is time to upsize for me and my family. Now I have a decent amount saved but we desperately need to move. I am going to borrow off of my uncle as he told me when the time comes to borrow from him because he can let me pay it off in more time. Now my wife from her previous career before we had kids and before she met me she had a good amount of money saved up. She kept offering for me to use her money but I always turned her down. Then out of nowhere when I said I was borrowing from my uncle it became a massive argument about her saying I think she’s inferior compared to me and that’s why I won’t borrow off of her which isn’t the case. I have no issue with my wife. I just don’t want to owe her money that’s all I don’t see her as lower than me or anything.

This deeply upset her to the point where she has been ignoring me for 2 weeks only when she HAS to talk to me she will talk to me. I’ve tried to have a talk with her multiple times and speak with her but every time I am just met with distance which makes me feel quite uncomfortable. When her family comes over to my house she makes silly remarks and says stuff like he doesn’t like it when a woman does what a man is meant to do. I just laugh it off as if it is a joke but she’s causing a serious problem now.

I tried to speak to her at one point and she just kept saying I’m going to buy my own house as if it is out of spite because I don’t want her money. She can do what she likes with her money but none of it concerns me. She tries to tease me In front of her brothers by telling them to look for houses within her budget and they turn around and say aren’t you looking for a bigger house (it’s known that we are looking to upsize) and then it just gets awkward.

She is just making herself look very silly and I’m not sure how to go forward.

EDIT: the reason I don’t want to borrow the money from her is she’s very wishy washy she’ll let me borrow but then later on she’ll say I could’ve done this by now but instead I chose to do this for you etc etc. When she does me favours she’ll hold them over my head for the next few years. That’s one of the reasons I don’t want to borrow from her. It’s a minor issue but it gets very annoying.