u/NSTCD99

I HATE this narrative that CF aren’t allowed to have free time or our lives aren’t as busy cause we don’t have kids..

It’s always the “oh enjoy that while you can” “just wait til you have kids” or my favorite is the passive aggressive projections “oh must be so nice to be able to do xyz” or “oh my I can’t remember the last time I was able to do that” like just say you’re jealous lol

Just cause I don’t have kids doesn’t mean I don’t have places to be or responsibilities or busy days. We have hard days too.

Not to mention I don’t feel bad for these people… YOU chose to have kids. It wasn’t something you had to do… you signed up for your time to be taken away. You signed up for your money to be used on another human(s).. You chose to lose your sleep… that was your choice. Just like it’s my choice to not have a kid cause I enjoy my time, my sleep, my money etc. You had the opportunity to live like this too but you wanted to procreate instead… sorry not sorry!

But to insinuate my time isn’t as valuable or try and make me feel guilty because I have the means of doing things you can’t because of your kids? Ya no thanks and a big ol FU!

Okay rant over thanks for coming to my rant lol

Not sure if y’all saw in the nanny sub that post about that poor nanny who didn’t have any of their alarms go off and they ended up not showing up for their NF that had flights and one of the parents ended up having to cancel.. they clearly feels horrible from the post and I literally couldn’t imagine the dread. Hoping they get to keep her job and learn from this mistake!

Anyways obviously they messed up big time even if it was totally not on purpose… but I was going back and forth with this parent and they were saying that basically the nanny should pay for the financial loss of the situation and I’m curious what y’all think as fellow Nannies??

Now context we don’t have is probs pretty important in all this like how long she’s been working for them, what their relationship is like and what the trip was for (work or leisure etc) but all that aside Im curious & want opinions..

Would you offer or be expected to pay??

Personally I don’t think it’s her responsibility.. I think that the situation sucks and I totally would be super frustrated and pissed if I was the parents but I don’t know if I was a parent if I could ask or expect my nanny to cover the money??

I guess it’s also like what do you expect to be paid? The plane ticket, the uber there, the hotel, rental car? To me there is a lot of things that could fall under that “loss” category…

I totally get the principle though like my NF and I are super super close and I know they would never ask me to pay if I was in that situation but if I had the means to do anything to make it up to them then ya sure I would love to be able to give them the money they wasted but in this economy?? I would probably struggle right now to even be able to pay them for a single plane ticket…

Then the parent flipped the script on me and asked if I would expect my NF to pay for my flight if they were late and made me miss it?

Firstly I would never book a flight on a day I’m working anyways lol cause ~anxiety~ but I don’t think I would ever ask them to pay for it… would I be pissed? Yes 1000% but idk how I would handle that… would you expect to have your money reimbursed???

Okay I’m done sorry reading into too heavy I know but it really had me thinking what other people thought about it