u/MysteriousRain01

Is a small gap or longer cocktail hour better?

We are having a Catholic mass ceremony from 3:30-4:30, and our reception venue is about 15 minutes from the church. With mingling after the ceremony, parking, and commute time, we expect most guests would arrive around 5 if they go straight to the venue.

We are debating between:
• Cocktail hour from 5-6:30 (1.5 hours)
or
• Cocktail hour from 5:30-6:30 (1 hour)

Our concern is mostly about the overall length of the day for guests. Since guests will likely arrive at the church around 3:15, and the reception runs until 10:30 followed by an after party, we are wondering if a small gap between ceremony and cocktail hour actually helps break up the day and gives people time to recharge or freshen up, or if it just creates inconvenient downtime.

Other details:

The cocktail hour will have substantial food/drinks, enough lounge seating for everyone, live entertainment, and multiple areas to spread out.

Or if guests arrive early to the hotel and need somewhere to go during the gap, there are also other public bars and lounges onsite where they could grab a drink before cocktail hour officially starts.

From a guest perspective, would you rather go straight into a longer cocktail hour, or have a small break before a shorter one?

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u/MysteriousRain01 — 3 days ago

Looking for Videographer in November in Texas

I am looking for a specific style of videography for my wedding in Texas this year. I splurged on photography early on and unfortunately only have 8,000 left in the budget for video.

I am hoping to find someone who edits and shoots almost like a movie, rather than a typical wedding highlight film. Not as much speech/vow voiceover or loud upbeat music, but a mix of sound that complements the footage. A lot of b-roll style and detail shots, and ambient noise to capture the feeling in the room. I like lower exposure but crisp visuals even in candlelight.

I am not sure how to describe it, but basically, I love exactly how this video looks and sounds and is formatted.

I would love recommendations of anyone who might be in my budget and have a similar style to what I am describing.

u/MysteriousRain01 — 5 days ago

I am looking for a long(floor or cathedral-length) lace-trimmed veil with a blusher, that is close in color to the Danielle Frankel Pearl color. Preferably under $2000. Please share recommendations if you have them!

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u/MysteriousRain01 — 6 days ago

My venue offers the option to do tableside meal selections for weddings under 80 guests, and we’re expecting around 70, so I’m considering it.

I’d love to hear from brides, guests, or planners who have experience with this- does it actually feel more elevated, or does the service end up being less seamless?
If I do it, should I offer choices for each course or just entrée? Should I stick to short rib for the beef option, or let guests order a filet cooked to their desired temperature? Is this a recipe for chaos?

And if I have the option to upgrade to tableside or stick with pre-selected and add an extra course, which do you think would be the best choice for a better guest experience?

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u/MysteriousRain01 — 11 days ago

Does anyone know where I can find a metal candelabra, or even just single candlesticks, with glass shields that sit up at the base of the candle? Or has anyone figured out how to safely DIY these? My florist won’t rig them herself for liability reasons. I don’t like the super modern looking all-glass versions.

u/MysteriousRain01 — 12 days ago