u/Muunlie

Hi all!

I'm a freshly 30 year old woman and moving to Bournemouth for grad school from the US later this year. I've been living in Los Angeles for the past decade or so and haven't really experienced a smaller city's dating scene.

What does the over 30 dating scene over there look like?

I'm a bit heavy as well, and while that's not been a problem here in LA I'm a little worried about it thinning out my dating pool over in Bournemouth 😅

I dated my ex for a year, and the whole time his roommate was very, VERY possessive of him. I found out after we broke up that he dated her for a month, they broke up, and they've lived together ever since. He then he cheated on his next girlfriend with her (emotionally because she's ace, but still a lot of inappropriate touching and groping between them). Then after that he started dating me.

I didn't like her before I found out because she would frequently crash our dates, follow us back to bed after we said goodnight, or hit on him in front of me, but I wrote it off as them being close and her being uncomfortable with sex. I still got annoyed about it and assumed that she had a crush on him, but I kept saying that if they'd dated he would've told me (don't I feel the fool now?) and I was fine with enduring the abuse from her when I thought he wanted to be with me.

He bought me one gift the entire time we were together: a hummingbird necklace with lab created white sapphires on it. It's very cute but doesn't particularly suit me. Still, it was a sweet gesture and I knew he had a hard time buying gifts for others so I wore it as often as I could.

I had already known that his roommate helped him pick it before we broke up. A week after I dumped him I found out that she's his ex and I haven't been able to bring myself to wear it since.

I was thinking of getting it melted down and turned into a ring, but that's more expensive than the necklace is worth. I was thinking of mailing it back to him but I don't really wanna break no contact for this. I feel like I should just donate it and be done with it but I can't seem to bring myself to do that either. For now it's just sitting in my jewelry box.

What do you guys think? Maybe I can seal it in an envelope and just not mail that?