u/Mountain-Lychee4359

I'm fluid, probably... I'm definitely not cis, though I'm not out and have been dragging my feet exploring gender. Recently, my friend invited me to an AFI concert and I hadn't listened to them since DecemberUnderground came out in 2006(8?). I wasn't expecting this look from Davey Havok, and I was mesmerized! Unfortunately, I have very strict and judgmental parents and their beliefs still impact me, so I'm at the concert, just enthralled by this man, and I can't help but criticize myself like, "Oh, now you get gender envy? This is the look you like? The long hair and handlebar mustache?" And I couldn't just enjoy a look, or even desire it for myself, because I was raised with so many beliefs that made character judgements on people for their appearance, so now, 6 (?) years since I started to realize I might be masc, I finally found a masculine look I connected to, this and Ponyo's dad, and I'm trying not to feel shame for it, because I still feel like I shouldn't want to look that way, or I should want to look conventionally attractive, and I know it's bullcrap, but I still have to deconstruct it. Anyhow, this man is awesome. Thanks for reading my rant.

I'm fluid, probably... I'm definitely not cis, though I'm not out and have been dragging my feet exploring gender. Recently, my friend invited me to an AFI concert and I hadn't listened to them since DecemberUnderground came out in 2006(8?). I wasn't expecting this look from Davey Havok, and I was mesmerized! Unfortunately, I have very strict and judgmental parents and their beliefs still impact me, so I'm at the concert, just enthralled by this man (not sexually; I like women), and I can't help but criticize myself like, "Oh, now you get gender envy? This is the look you like? The long hair and handlebar mustache?" And I couldn't just enjoy a look, or even desire it for myself, because I was raised with so many beliefs that made character judgements on people for their appearance, so now, 6 (?) years since I started to realize I might be masc, I finally found a masculine look I connected to, this and Ponyo's dad, and I'm trying not to feel shame for it, because I still feel like I shouldn't want to look that way, or I should want to look conventionally attractive, and I know it's bullcrap, but I still have to deconstruct it. Anyhow, this man is awesome. Thanks for reading my rant.

Are these normal costs when moving out?

5-6 months ago our landlord said that the adjoining apartment (duplex) had a roach problem the neighbors had been treating. They were going to spray that side since they left. Until they left we hadn't seen a single roach, then they moved in by droves. We didn't know how bad it was. I'm not from a climate that gets them. We set traps with professional bait that filled in like a week. We cleaned the kitchen more frequently, something which has been hard while I've been recovering from heart surgery. We were gonna move soon, so we thought we'd be fine until then. We fogged before we started moving and we have washed clothing and dishes and moved them over immediately. We've moved things from parts of the house that didn't get as many, like the bedrooms and mudroom. Most stuff except some kitchen things we've moved down to the garage and we have been planning to uhaul today. Well my friend, a local, came over to help us and was immediately alarmed by the problem. We fogged last night and they say we should get rid of everything and that the cardboard boxes we've already moved could have them! What can I save? Please help!