Sex only outside of the marriage
Update: Thank you all for your thoughtful responses and discussion points. You have given me a lot to consider. I appreciate that so many of you have shared your experiences with similar situations.
There has been a second wave of responses [perhaps my post has reached the general public (i.e. less open-minded) outside of this sub] that have assumed malicious intent on my part, and are assuming that I'm trying to trick or manipulate my husband or create a situation that would harm him for my benefit. Some even say that I have cheated and want his permission to continue. That is completely incorrect. I have never cheated and would never cheat.
The entire reason I posed this question is to see how to best handle this situation in a respectful and ethical manner, so that all parties are leading a fulfilling life. My husband and I are both very open-minded people, so I thought it would be beneficial to consider possibilities outside the societal norm of simply separating.
A big thing I'm realizing thanks to some thoughtful commenters is that my husband may feel forced to make a decision that he is not actually comfortable with just to prevent the separation. I think couples therapy with an open-minded counselor that is accepting of ENM and/or non-traditional relationships may be the best way to work through all of this.
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Original post:
Has anyone here opened their marriage, but no longer has a sexual relationship with their spouse?
ETA: I would love to hear from others that have experience with this type of non-traditional relationship dynamic - whether it went well or went badly
I am interested in staying with my husband and remaining partners in running a household and raising our two young children together, but I am no longer sexually attracted to him and do not want to continue that part of our partnership. [Redacted info about my own sexuality as I don't think it's necessary to have the discussion]. I am not interested in seeking new to sexual partners for the foreseeable future.
I want him to have the great sex life that he deserves. The thought of him being in a sexual or even emotional relationship with another person does not bother me at all.
Has anyone been successful (or not) with this dynamic and would like to share some insight?
This discussion assumes he would want to stay in a relationship like this. Obviously I know that he may not be comfortable with this and may simply want a divorce when I bring it up. I'm just curious if something like this has worked for others.
ETA: I'd really love to hear from people who have tried something similar (successfully or not) or have other insights into open relationship dynamics. Disrespectful comments from those who have no interest in discussing the dynamics of an open relationship are not adding anything of value to this conversation and will be reported/blocked.