u/Meski98

I've heard many times that you shouldn't make being a virgin part of your identity or self worth, but it's hard to not see it as a flaw in yourself when it's the primary reason for why you're turned down at 27 years old.

For context, I'm not a "saving for marriage" person, I just simply haven't had much luck in the dating world. I'm autistic and therefore socially awkward, so I know that I'm already at a disadvantage in this.

I've gotten better socially over the years and have even gotten back into a habit of asking women out in person, which for me is a big deal. However, when I'm honest with them and tell them that I'm a virgin and that my most "serious" relationship was about a month, they decide it's not going to work.

It's really been shattering my confidence, and I try my best not to take it personally, but it gets really difficult to not see it as a personal flaw when it's consistently the reason things don't work out.

I don't necessarily want to "pay" to have my virginity taken away, but any advice on how I can make peace with this would be appreciated. Or should I honestly just give up since I'm 27 with little to no sexual or romantic experience? Is it too late for me?

I've heard many times that you shouldn't make being a virgin part of your identity or self worth, but it's hard to not see it as a flaw in yourself when it's the primary reason for why you're turned down at 27 years old.

For context, I'm not a "saving for marriage" person, I just simply haven't had much luck in the dating world. I'm autistic and therefore socially awkward, so I know that I'm already at a disadvantage in this.

I've gotten better socially over the years and have even gotten back into a habit of asking women out in person, which for me is a big deal. However, when I'm honest with them and tell them that I'm a virgin and that my most "serious" relationship was about a month, they decide it's not going to work.

It's really been shattering my confidence, and I try my best not to take it personally, but it gets really difficult to not see it as a personal flaw when it's consistently the reason things don't work out.

I don't necessarily want to "pay" to have my virginity taken away, but any advice on how I can make peace with this would be appreciated. Or should I honestly just give up since I'm 27 with little to no sexual or romantic experience? Is it too late for me?

Edit:

Okay apparently I need to add more context. I'm not just going out and disclosing beforehand that I'm a virgin. The only time I disclose it is when the women I'm chatting with initiate the topic by either asking me how much experience I've had or how many women I've been with, THEN I disclose that information to them. Hope that clears it up.