u/Mental_Razzmatazz589

I had actually received an apology card too with the watch, I had forgotten to add that in the previous post. I have attached the images. One page is written in English and the other in Bengalish.

I have tried to give as much detail as possible. I am not leaving any chance for people to misinterpret anything again. Read it or not, it’s upon you, but please don’t comment anything funny without reading it fully. It took me quite a while to write.

After receiving the gift, I texted her and said that I didn’t need it and that I would send it back through the same mutual friend. I also told her to leave me alone for now.

She texted back saying that she wouldn’t take it back through anyone else and wanted to meet first. So I had no other choice. I agreed, but under the condition that we would meet secretly and she wouldn’t tell anyone about it. We decided the place and time.

When we met, I tried handing her the watch back without looking into her eyes or saying anything, but she didn’t take it. She said she would only take it after talking first. I sensed a slight tremble in her voice.

She kept trying to talk on the way, but I wasn’t really giving proper answers, just "hmm", "umm", "mmm", and sighs. So eventually she went completely quiet for the rest of the way. She looked like she was holding back tears.

We went to a nearby botanical garden. We found an uncrowded place to talk, away from the main crowded areas. We made sure nobody was around.

I asked, "So what do you want to talk about?"

She looked at me for a while, and I saw tears slowly rolling down her face. After that, she completely broke down crying.

She admitted that what she did was wrong, said she would never do anything like that again, and that she would do whatever it takes to be forgiven.

I said, "Is that so?" and then asked, "Can I sl@p you too then?"

She agreed.

I was honestly kind of shocked, but I took a step back. She closed her eyes, and with all my force, I gave her a light tap on her cheek and wiped her tears.

Seeing your loved one cry is probably one of the most heartbreaking things you can experience.

I know many of you are not happy with how this is turning out, but listen, we have been together for a long time and share a lot of good memories together, and believe it or not, this was the only bad incident with her.
I can cry and share whatever I want with her without the fear of judgment. And she can do the same with me.

She looked up a little surprised, but then chuckled softly.

I said, "So because of you, my aura has taken quite the hit. What are you going to do to bring it back to where it was?" Still maintaining my shallow and slightly rude tone.

We discussed a lot and made a plan that she would actively try to approach and apologize to me, while I would ignore her so people would think that she messed up really badly and now has to beg like crazy to win me back.

Weird, right? I know.

I asked her what caused that sudden burst of anger.

The reasons are as follows:

PMS: While every woman’s experience is unique, it affects some women really badly in particular. It’s really important that you pamper her, be patient, empathetic, and proactive by stocking up on her favorite snacks, taking over chores, and offering comfort without expectations. I know it’s hard, but it’s your duty after all.

And when it’s over, ask her to do the same for you back. It’s their duty too after all ;)

We already do this usually. She normally tells me beforehand, but it’s not always possible to say it.

Look, I am not trying to justify it. While it’s a completely natural process and not her fault, your partner still does not deserve to be abused. It explains the behavior, but it does not justify it.

My advice would be to use a period tracking app that lets you share cycle data with your partner. It can at least help you prepare beforehand.

But it wasn’t just that either. It was more like: PMS + toxic household + anger issues + annoying friends + CUET + board results stress.

Toxic Household and Anger Issues: I would like to add some important information about her. She has genuinely terrible parents. Her anger issues are most likely because of them too.

Her dad once slapped her so hard that it landed on her ear and caused a perforated eardrum. It took around 6 months to heal properly. Her mother is not any better either. She once h!t her with a 🐚 on her chin, because of which she had to get st!tches.

She had no choice but to adapt in a way that gave her the strength to fight back. My parents are not much better either, but at least they made sure my breathing d!dn’t st0p completely.

Bro… she has honestly faced so much. I only wish I could be more present for her. I know anger issues are a serious problem, and I think she needs psychiatric help to properly improve. We very shockingly don’t have the money for it, but I still want to support her however I can.

Her anger issues are usually quite manageable. Most of the time she only needs a hug from me to calm down, but this isn’t exactly something you do in front of everyone, so :(

Another thing I should mention is that I have clearly told her that she can scream, yell, cry, whatever... but she should never raise her hands on me again. If it happens again, then I will actually leave for good.

It was really clear that she got very scared thinking that I was actually going to cut ties with her. She said she won't do anything like that ever ever again and I can slap her back in front of everyone to make it even so, you can guess how scared she was...

If your partner is causing trouble for you, you have every right to be angry, but completely leaving and severing ties immediately? Don’t get me wrong, you absolutely have every right to leave. But if there’s still hope that they can become better, then I don’t think it’s wrong to help them improve either.

And if they are not improving at all, then yeah, you should leave.

I am happy to support her, but I won’t become a punching bag.

Boards Results and CUET: Our board exams didn’t go very well to say the least, so we are both extremely stressed about the results. Even the result news is giving me seizures at this point. And then there’s CUET too, so there’s exam stress on top of everything else.

I know there are still a lot of questions left unanswered. I will answer those in the comments because this post has already become long enough.

Pata hai aaj kya hua, we patched up :)

Edit 1: I had forgotten to mention earlier, I have actually returned the watch.

Edit 2: Some of you are asking why did she gifted me a watch instead of apologizing in front of everyone. In her defense, I had completely cut off all contact with her and I wouldn't even let her come close to me, so she had to find other ways to reach me.

Edit 3: Since many people wanted to know the reason behind the fight:

We were hanging out with friends when the Bengal voting results came up and politics became the topic.

I tried taking the neutral route by giving good points and criticisms about both sides. Biggest mistake ever btw 😭 if you support one side, the other hates you. If you stay neutral, both sides hate you.

Eventually two friends started arguing and dragged me into it too. My gf was trying to stop the fight, but instead of stopping the person actively arguing, she kept stopping me instead.

That annoyed me because from my perspective I wasn’t even escalating it anymore. Then instead of arguing normally, I started rage-baiting the other girl on purpose. My gf kept telling me to stop, I didn’t, and eventually she got angry and slapped me.

That’s basically what happened. Pretty lame, right? I know, that's why I didn't wanted to say it.

My gf slapped me during an argument 3 days ago. Not a playful slap, hard enough that her handprint stayed on my cheek for a while. Worst part? It happened in front of our friends.

I didn’t react there, just walked away. She tried stopping me but I ignored her, blocked her everywhere for 3 days because honestly I felt humiliated and angry.

Today a mutual friend came to my house with a watch worth ₹7500 from her.

Now, I know ₹7,500 isn't much of a big amount for a lot of you but it is to us. She’s 19, gives tuitions, and apparently spent almost all her savings on it because she feels extremely guilty and embarrassed.

Ab mujhe samajh nahi aa raha should I accept the gift and move on, ya self-respect ke liye this should be a hard boundary?

I know people make mistakes in anger, but...

Need honest opinions... Please don't give ambiguous answers I am already confused more than enough.

Pata hai aaj kya hua

Edit: Many of you are asking the reason behind it. I know Reddit is an anonymous platform but the reason for the fight was very lame, infact it's so lame that it's even embarrassing to remember it.

Just know that she was the one who started it and she was the one in the wrong. No one was in her support and that caused her to get violent. Another thing I should mention is that she has serious anger issues, if that helps.

I showed this to my friends. I observed that the guys were in support of the guy and the gals were in support of the gal. I am in support of the guy but, it's maybe because I am a guy too...

Now, I know this post is quite the gender war causing material. But, my intention isn't to cause war, but rather to find a solution to the problem "𝙞𝙛 𝙗𝙤𝙩𝙝 𝙢𝙚𝙣 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙬𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙣 𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙥𝙧𝙞𝙯𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙣𝙖 𝙗𝙚 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙨𝙚𝙙, 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙣... 𝙒𝙝𝙤 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙚𝙡𝙡 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙗𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙨𝙚??"

If this is true then I don't know what to even say at this. I am so very disgusted and even more disturbed... I am at a loss of words. Such cruel beasts like these exist? Wth... Her fault? She was hindu... I hope they all die the most painful death ever known to mankind. F*ck justice system, kill all those beasts immediately

Edit: I saw this posted on another sub-reddit. I hope that it's fake and the things said are exaggerated. I found this article and so far it's looks like it is. I don't think there was any inf@nt r@pe, it's most probably made up.

https://viewsbangladesh.com/police-statement-over-disturbing-video-showing-bodies-of-woman-and-her-newborn/

Pata hai aaj kya hua, today my batchmate showed me some photos she took with her boyfriend.

She’d told me long ago that she was in a situationship with someone… apparently, that situationship’s now upgraded to a full relationship.

The problem? The guy.
He’s a certified master playboy. You know the type... mind games, multiple girls, double life… full package. He used to hang out with multiple girls while already being in a relationship. He even cheated on his ex twice when he was in 11th.

At one point, the girl’s brother was literally ready to beat him up outside school. Banda poora gang leke khada tha. Idk what offerings he gives to the gods, but bhai escaped that situation.

Now coming to the girl… I was actually thinking of warning her, but yeh bhi koi doodh ki dhuli nahi hai.

Back in 10th, she got caught making out with a college guy in the school washroom… while she was already in a relationship with someone else. Proper scene ho gaya tha back then. She has learned her lesson since then and now only makes out in OYO.

Why do I know all this? Because I’ve known both of them even before they knew each other.
The girl used to be my neighbor, we literally grew up playing together.
And the guy was my school senior and also a good friend.

When she was showing me their photos, I immediately recognized him at first glance but didn’t say anything. My mind went completely blank for a moment.

If you ask me, this is the definition of skill-based matchmaking. They’re both so similar, it almost feels like a social experiment. Same traits, same habits. They’re both cheaters, liars, narcissistic, and a little egoistic too. Honestly, they kind of deserve each other. Balanced toxicity.

The girl, she’s always been sassy, even as a kid. She’s basically the one who introduced me to… let’s say… forbidden knowledge.

And the guy? He’s always had my back. Fights ho ya advice chahiye ho regarding that same forbidden knowledge, he was always there.

Even here, they are weirdly similar.

This is a match made in heaven (maybe hell). They’re either going to get along really well, or it’s going to end in disaster. The latter’s more likely. There’s no in-between.

Now I’m stuck.
No matter how bad they were to others, they’ve both been really nice to me. I’m thinking of minding my own business but also want to warn both of them separately about each other and telling them to back off… Because honestly, this relationship can take a really ugly turn.

But that’s risky af. What if they find out I told both of them? They might think I’m plotting to break them up (which… okay, technically I am… but for a good cause).

And if I mind my own business and later they find out I knew everything and still didn’t say anything… that also looks bad.

Should I warn them or just grab popcorn and watch what happens next? 🍿