r/AskIndianFeminists

I cannot stop thinking about the insane amount and intensity of unfiltered cruelty and hatred the children have grown up with and repressed in their tiny little hearts. And I'm talking about all children all genders and then their abusers of all genders. How they themselves become their own abusers as they grow up and project it on others even when they don't want to. And the ones who want to save others from it but their inner abuser won't let them get out.

Do you know the feeling I'm talking about? We're capable of building anything we want. Solve anything we want. But you have to acknowledge it first and look at it with empathy. How much empathy do you show to yourself?

The matters of children, in all genders and ages and forms, is a core matriarchal issue. This needs to be our priority. Not something we will deal with later. Everything depends on it.

Think about it for a second.

Every time an Indian woman says she wants to work, be financially independent, build something of her own some man shows up with "but our culture already respects women, she is worshipped here."

Worshipped. Right.

Then why is the same worshipped woman expected to hand over her salary to the family? Why does she need permission to visit her own parents? Why is her career the first thing that gets sacrificed when a baby arrives never his?

You don't worship something and then make it dependent on you for survival. That's not devotion. That's ownership with better branding.

The "queen" treatment is the same trap with a prettier bow.

Her money is hers. His money is theirs. He should pay. She should be spoiled. She deserves to be pampered.

Women who actually fought for equality would spit on this rhetoric. Because at the end of it she has comfort but no power. She is celebrated but controlled. And the moment he walks out, she has nothing to stand on.

A comfortable dependence is still dependence.

Real respect doesn't look like a throne.

It looks like her name on the account. Her career mattering as much as his. Her being able to walk out of any situation relationship, family, marriage and still be completely fine on her own.

That's freedom. Everything else is just a gilded cage they forgot to lock because they didn't need to.

I'll be upfront: I am a 32M and have my own opinion on feminism.

I think Feminism has done a lot of good for women's rights, and it is essential to exist. But I don't view it as this fundamental force of good, or the notion that anyone who "isn't a feminist, is sexist". I recognise feminism as a political movement as well as an ideology, and any political movement can be criticized and be unaligned with.

All that being said, I am open to changing my mind and see what I am missing. For this, I would like to read more.

so please suggest me some feminist literature. I don't want to start off with the radical ideas. I would like to read the classical ideas of feminism, as well as Indian feminist literature.