u/Melodiclife26

I have been tracking our intimacy from last few years. we have sex less than 10 times a year so I guess we are in a sexless marriage. I color code my tracker for days we have sex, kissed, hugged, cuddled, made out etc. I was checking for this year and I see that although we had sex 3 times , we still don’t have much physical intimacy. we are good partners, he helps around the house, we have good family but we are just glorified roommates who occasionally have sex.

Before Covid we kissed and hugged when we went for work and came back but then we were home all day and now also we rarely give a quick half hug when leaving home. I feel I miss that comfort of physical affection most. I love to hug and cuddle but since we sleep in separate bedroom, we rarely cuddle.

I really miss hugging him,spooning and feeling his body warmth. when he first started sleeping in study I once went to sleep with him. I was wearing a satin nighty and he thought I had come to seduce him. He just casually commented that I am very tired but since you put in so much effort I will let you smoosh me. I loved cowgirl position and that was the position where I could orgasm but when he passed this comment it hit like a ton of bricks that he thinks I’m fat. I was already conscious of my weight but this cemented in my mind that he is not attracted to me. Moreover I feel maybe cowgirl is really uncomfortable for him as I’m at least 35 pounds more than him.I have never gone back to his study or initiated or done cowgirl. It’s he who initiates and we mostly have boring missionary and I never orgasm. Moreover he has ED and PE so that’s worsens it.

He recently lost control when he was leaving home and we made out before he left. We had sex when he was back and he did say that he could not wait to come back home but after last Friday it’s same as before. we don’t hug, kiss or hold hands. intimacy will be again when he is in mood and then a quick unsatisfying sex. I feel I have become low libido for him and I don’t initiate as I’m scared of insult when he refuses me and my mind is so anxious sex feels like walking on eggshells.

I think I miss that connection the most.He says he loves me but I don’t feel that love. I can see his love in his acts of service but I’m craving for physical affection.

tl;dr Not much physical affection with husband.

I have been tracking our intimacy from last few years. I color code my tracker for days we have sex, kissed, hugged, cuddled, made out etc. I was checking for this year and I see that although we had sex 3 times , we still don’t have much physical intimacy.

Before Covid we kissed and hugged when we went for work and came back but then we were home all day and now also we rarely give a quick half hug when leaving home. I feel I miss that comfort of physical affection most. I love to hug and cuddle but since we sleep in separate bedroom, we rarely cuddle.

I really miss hugging him,spooning and feeling his body warmth. when he first started sleeping in study I once went to sleep with him. I was wearing a satin nighty and he thought I had come to seduce him. He just casually commented that I am very tired but since you put in so much effort I will let you smoosh me. I loved cowgirl position and that was the position where I could orgasm but when he passed this comment it hit like a ton of bricks that he thinks I’m fat. I was already conscious of my weight but this cemented in my mind that he is not attracted to me. Moreover I feel maybe cowgirl is really uncomfortable for him as I’m at least 35 pounds more than him.I have never gone back to his study or initiated or done cowgirl. It’s he who initiates and we mostly have boring missionary and I never orgasm. Moreover he has ED and PE so that’s worsens it.

He recently lost control when he was leaving home and we made out before he left. We had sex when he was back and he did say that he could not wait to come back home but after last Friday it’s same as before. we don’t hug, kiss or hold hands. intimacy will be again when he is in mood and then a quick unsatisfying sex. I feel I have become low libido for him and I don’t initiate as I’m scared of insult when he refuses me and my mind is so anxious sex feels like walking on eggshells.

I think I miss that connection the most.He says he loves me but I don’t feel that love. I can see his love in his acts of service but I’m craving for physical affection.

I have been silent reader here. I always felt we are in sexless marriage from last few years.Both me and hubby are married and in mid 40s. We never had a super passionate married sex life. I always felt I was higher libido than him. In early days of marriage also we had sex one or two times a week. It was also very vanilla sex. I can count on hand the number of times I have orgasmed.something which happened yesterday has me very confused about my sexlife. I would like an insight in it.

My husband has been struggling with ED and PE from last few years. Doctor told him it’s due to stress and his hectic life style. He has been working on it.

He works out regularly and runs everyday. he is quite fit where as I'm overweight. I many times feel his ED is because he is not attracted to me but he denies it.

we never kissed so much but now he is lot into tongue kissing and loves long smooches. just yesterday he was supposed to travel for work. we never get privacy due to kids and all.. yesterday kids were at school and we were just kissing bye as his cab was waiting outside. He got so heated up with just two kisses that he just smothered me with kisses and we made out and then he dry humped me and I think he came. because he left to go to restroom and changed clothes before leaving for airport. The cab guy was mad as he had to wait for around 15 mins. It was a very intense moment for both of us. I had not felt such a primal urge in him. It felt good that he desired me but I’m confused. I still did not orgasm but I could see he looked very satisfied and kissed me tenderly again on forehead before leaving.I have faced rejection and I’m very insecure about my weight and whether he finds me desirable.Yesterday I was thinking maybe he still loves me and find me desirable?

I don’t know what to make of this session. Is he trying to change and find me sexy?

what should I do that he does not go back to those days when he won’t even touch me?

Would men have sex with their wife even if they Are not that attracted?

tl;dr confused by husbands behavior.

I have been silent reader here. I always felt we are in sexless marriage from last few years.Both me and hubby are married and in mid 40s. We never had a super passionate married sex life. I always felt I was higher libido than him. In early days of marriage also we had sex one or two times a week. It was also very vanilla sex. I can count on hand the number of times I have orgasmed.something which happened yesterday has me very confused about my sexlife. I would like an insight in it.

My husband has been struggling with ED and PE from last few years. Doctor told him it’s due to stress and his hectic life style. He has been working on it.

He works out regularly and runs everyday. he is quite fit where as I'm overweight. I many times feel his ED is because he is not attracted to me but he denies it.

we never kissed so much but now he is lot into tongue kissing and loves long smooches. just yesterday he was supposed to travel for work. we never get privacy due to kids and all.. yesterday kids were at school and we were just kissing bye as his cab was waiting outside. He got so heated up with just two kisses that he just smothered me with kisses and we made out and then he dry humped me and I think he came. because he left to go to restroom and changed clothes before leaving for airport. The cab guy was mad as he had to wait for around 15 mins. It was a very intense moment for both of us. I had not felt such a primal urge in him. It felt good that he desired me but I’m confused. I still did not orgasm but I could see he looked very satisfied and kissed me tenderly again on forehead before leaving.I have faced rejection and I’m very insecure about my weight and whether he finds me desirable.Yesterday I was thinking maybe he still loves me and find me desirable?

I don’t know what to make of this session. Is he trying to change and find me sexy?

what should I do that he does not go back to those days when he won’t even touch me?

Would men have sex with their wife even if they Are not that attracted?