u/Melodic-Statement144

Looking for others opinions on a hypothetical sibling name (not pregnant yet) for my daughter Vivienne (we call her Vivi or Viv mostly). I know sibling names don’t have to match styles and this might be some sort of weird anxiety talking but I feel like naming my first child Vivienne may have boxed me in stylistically? These are the names that are currently on my list for future kids:

Girls:
-Daphne
-Florence
-Josie (don’t love full name Josephine)
-Clara
-Grace
-Delaney (nickname Della?)
-Calla
-Eloise
-Blaire
-August
-Georgia
-Leonie (nickname Leo?)

Boys:
-Cyrus
-Charles (Charlie?)
-Bennett
-Levi
-William
-Alden
-Wells
-Louis (pronounced loo-ee)
-Kian (pronounced key-in)

Looking for others advice on name regret. My daughter is 7 and a half months and I have gone through ups and downs regarding her name since she was born. My husband and I couldn’t agree on a name for a long time before we finally landed on one when my daughter was 10 days old. The name we picked was a name I had always loved but never pictured myself using as a name for my child. My name style is a little different from the more traditionally feminine name that we gave to my daughter. My husband really liked my favourite name but didn’t feel overly confident in the name for it to be our daughter’s first name. To compromise, we gave her my favourite name (a more unique gender neutral one) as her middle name. I still 7.5 months late often wonder if I made the right choice or if I gave in too easily by not going with my favourite name.

I have had a tendency to struggle with big life decisions. My mind seems to fixate on decisions that I make and amplify them so that it’s all I can think about. Because of this and the fact that the name anxiety comes and goes, it’s hard to trust my gut. Sometimes I feel totally fine about her name and other times I fall into a loop of constantly looking for reassurance that I made the right choice.

Has anyone else dealt with this? If so, how did you get through it. I feel like by 7.5 months this feeling should have passed by now if I was going to settle into the name?

Edit: just want to add that my husband loves her name and wouldn’t just start to call her by her middle name. He’s very much bonded to the name I believe. I also think both sides of the family are fully emotionally invested in her name as it is. I don’t know how easy or even reasonable it would be to expect them to start to refer to her as her middle name.

I love this name but I have heard from some family and friends that the name is outdated or an old lady name.. this is kind of throwing me off. Looking to get others opinions on this name?

I also see a lot of people say that this name is pronounced differently than Vivian. To me they sound the same and others from where I’m from also say them the same. If I were to use the Vivienne spelling with the Vivian pronunciation, is that just straight up wrong?

Also… I just don’t think I could expect people to use the French pronunciation. I don’t think it’s super intuitive.

(We would use the French spelling as a nod to my husband being born in France)

I love this name but I have heard from some family and friends that the name is outdated or an old lady name.. this is kind of throwing me off. Looking to get others opinions on this name?

I also see a lot of people say that this name is pronounced differently than Vivian. To me they sound the same and others from where I’m from also say them the same. If I were to use the Vivienne spelling with the Vivian pronunciation, is that just straight up wrong?

Also… I just don’t think I could expect people to use the French pronunciation. I don’t think it’s super intuitive.

(We would use the French spelling as a nod to my husband being born in France)