u/Mayaal31

I joined this group so I can discuss single women issues such as financing a real estate purchase, feeling celebrated in couple groups, managing a house and work load alone and that is what I thought it was about.

However and please correct me if I am wrong. The group is inundated with women who are coming here for dating advice or women whom are really too young to even make this decision or women frustrated with their partners and want to throw the towel in.

I feel like they have many other spaces like /askwomen /dating /marriage etc etc etc. the list of options for them is endless. Why post here the same stuff that us are sick off?

Can we please just have a space to focus on us and decanter men?

And if you are looking for advice then read posts that we wrote on being single but I feel like this space should focus on actual single women who have already decentered men.

Apologies if I have misunderstood the rules or something.

So during my cancer treatment I was gifted some reiki sessions. During my first session, I lay down with the practitioner at my head and I remember shaking and crying.

But as I lay there with my eyes closed I saw something. It was a black tarantula like spider with a pole like thing coming down from its center.

It swung up and towards my face. Of course the closer it got the bigger it looked. But it was huge bigger than my head. It felt like I was being attacked/warned.

Then I think there was a snake that bit it away or something.

I know it meant something but no idea what and was wondering if someone can tell me.

I had found the lump and was in shock but needed to let him know I wasn't coming into work as my dr app ran late. He came to support me. We had what I think was called a hug?? I asked for things to be kept private especially from the new staff at work, as i had only known them a few days,

A month passed by and after a failed biopsy & several doctor visits, this new doctor finally sat us down and broke the news to me that I had cancer. I was numb.

As we got in the car to leave, the world was spinning but I stayed quiet, trying to process thru the loud music. I asked to turn down the music and was told why are you this way?? Then as he drove slower and slower I listened as he told this story of this man who did this and that and how he kept things to himself because well what do you know he was two faced. The implication being of course that I am two faced.

This coming from the man who had led a double life and hid his mistress for over 30 years. I bit my tongue and swallowed my grief.

Months later I found out that he had told the staff, she has cancer in her titty. Titty! Couldn't even give me the self respect of calling it breast cancer.