u/Matt2382

I have a friend who recently got into a relationship. Her new boyfriend doesn't want her talking to any guys. So, whenever she hangs out with him she puts me (the one platonic male friend) on silent and sometimes removes me from snapchat. Immediately once they're done hanging out she re adds me and things go back to normal.

This is starting to get me uncomfortable because if he does find out it will cause a huge fight between the two which will lead to me probably getting cut off, if not messaged by the boyfriend and also it's just frustrating. Her and I are just platonic friends and I shouldn't need to be hidden. I don't know why she won't just set a boundary back at him and basically say this is all that is, you're gonna have to accept it. At the end of the day all it shows is he doesn't trust her and he's insecure.

What should I do here? This thing will blow up eventually and I'm just getting tired of it. Hiding me, putting me on silent and god knows what else makes it look like she's cheating on him when she is not.

TIA

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u/Matt2382 — 10 days ago

Is this normal? I’m 20 in college and I’ve never perused a girl. I’ve liked girls but often they have to start the conversation with me to get to that point. I never go out of my way to start convos with girls unless they do first. I just don’t see a point to it.

I’ve never been in a relationship because of this. I also just don’t want to come off creepy. I was reading on this and some people say quit porn. I don’t watch porn. I do crave a relationship but I just don’t see a point to persue probably because of self esteem.

I just want to know if this is normal and if I should internally change this. Thanks!

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u/Matt2382 — 13 days ago