u/Material_Wasabi4019

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I'm finally telling someone

I got home from watching a movie, after a rough week of slipping back into relapse, and had somewhat of a breakthrough while looking at old discord messages. Ones from late last year, that I never replied to because I was so deep in my disorder. It's been so long since those messages were sent, except it hasn't felt like that with how all the days have been blending together from how focused I've been on this one, meaningless goal. I've neglected friendships. Hobbies. Fandoms. I have to apologize to an online friend for the third time for ghosting her because of how distant I've become. Fixing what I've broken is going to be hard, and it's going to take a long time.

But I'm never going to be able to even start if I don't first fix this. So I ate a chocolate egg, and then another, and then a muffin. And I texted my friend that I need to talk to them tomorrow, like I've been meaning to for weeks, but have constantly chickened out of. Except now I can't chicken out. Even though every part of me wants to. Almost every atom in my body in screaming to delete those messages, to retreat, to go back to where I was. But I'm going to fight. Kicking and screaming. Because if anorexia is going to act like a fuck ass toddler than I'm going to beat it at it's own game. I am going to fight it, and I'm not going to let it take anything else from me, because I am alive. And being alive, and living, and experiencing life, is so much more important then some stupid fucking number and stupid fucking fear and goddamn stupid fucking societal pressures.

This is probably really rambly, so I apologize, but I needed to get it out. And if anyone else needs a sign- well, I can't force you to take this as one, but I can say this.

You are alive. There are books to read, and movies to watch, and mountains to climb, and so, so much more. And you can still technically do those while being disordered, but it will never be as fufilling as it will be in a healthy, happy, nourished body.

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u/Material_Wasabi4019 — 23 hours ago

people pleasing aroace once again faced with the likelihood of having to let someone down. advice?

i mean i might be wrong but it's fairly obvious, he asked me out on Valentine's (though framed it kind of jokey) and since then has kept coming up to me, got my insta and now just asked if I'm single. like don't get me wrong! I'm flattered that he likes me. but 1) this kids like. 2 years younger than me so. yikes. and 2) i have no romantic interest in him or anyone else. he's cool, and chill, but as per usual, not in that way.

I've had this happen several times before and I'm really dreading if/when the balls gonna drop. primarily because the last few times i have folded under the pressure of being a people-pleasing loser and turning into a stammering mess as i try to explain myself without explaining myself or end up unwillingly entering a relationship because of my inability to say no.

does anyone have any advice on what i should do/say if he does confess? ideally i don't want to have to out myself but. idk. maybe I'm overthinking it.

gahh i hate romance fr

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u/Material_Wasabi4019 — 3 days ago
🔥 Hot ▲ 82 r/Baking

my icing skills are slowly improving 💪

justtt need to get a bit of a steadier hand but my coats are getting really neat and I'm messing up much less on the borders :)

u/Material_Wasabi4019 — 5 days ago

cake crumbling just like your dreams? nothing a little (lot of) icing can't fix!

had a wee oopsie when trying out a lemon cake for the first time.. wasn't cooking properly in the oven (cause the bottom element is kinda broken... super not ideal for baking) so I tried to flip it to get it to bake evenly and.. cracks everywhere, chunks fallen off, lots of stress. thank goodness buttercream icing came into clutch- i layered it in the cake to glue the broken pieces together then did an overall crumb coat and finally a full icing job to make sure it was all covered.

definitely too many flowers so design was a bit cluttered, but can you blame me i love using the Russian piping tips i got for Christmas 😌

u/Material_Wasabi4019 — 6 days ago