I (24M) was looking at some pictures of my girlfriend (23F) with her on the phone and then on one of them complimented her back because I thought it looked good and I wanted to say something related to that marmot arm grabbing meme about wishing I could give her arms a squeeze right now since we are long distance. I know how cringe it is I’m sorry. I ended up completely misspeaking and instead saying let’s tone up those arms in the gym or something. It’s because as I was about to say the other thing I realized it may sound offensive and ended up just making it so much worse I don’t know what I was thinking I thought I would try to go some kind of encouragement route and just quickly tried to make that switch and fell so flat on my face. She was obviously immediately hurt and hung up and it has been really rough for the past couple days. I have no idea why I said that I don’t even believe in it because I think she is absolutely perfect. I’ve been trying to reassure her but she says she can’t trust anything about her body coming from me anymore. I completely understand that too but I have no idea how to go about this now. I feel devastated. I can’t believe I made her feel this way it was genuinely just a failed last minute thought switch but I messed up so bad. What to do here?
TLDR: Tried to suppress in the moment what I realized might be a hurtful comment about girlfriend arms with one that ended up being worse. I do not even believe in what I said and want to assure her I think she is the most beautiful person in the world. How can I go about this I’m so crushed.