AITA for talking to my ex’s ex after the breakup
Two weeks after ripping my world apart, he came back asking for another chance. Showed so much promise and said that he would not be the one to leave me this time.
What he didn’t know was during the first week of the breakup I contacted some mutual friends and the girl he cheated on me with during the beginning of our relationship. I hardly remember what I said or what was going on during that week.
The ex girlfriend reached out to him and shared what I wrote to her. Essentially I said we broke up, be careful, he’s a liar, everyone knows he did her dirty, and we both deserve better.
He was so angry when he found out exactly what I had said. I kept telling him how I was having a hard time forgiving myself for what I said but he never wanted to know what, until she shared it with him.
Before he ended it for good we saw each other two weeks earlier and he used me physically to help with him emotionally.
I’m a wreck. He framed the end all on me and the fact that I spoke to his people (who had become our mutual friends), and said horrible things about him. Little did he remember the day he ended things for the 4th time, he did it over a 7 minute conversation after talking about how we were going to get married earlier in the week.
I know I was wrong for what I said. I know I was wrong for contacting his friends but I forgave him for so much, including infidelity. He refused to understand that my reaction didn’t come out of a vacuum. How when he bought a g*n with the engagement ring money I might have been pushed over the edge. Yet in the end it was all my fault.
I’m broken. There was so much hope and now the floor was moved out over again.
Was I the a*hole?