Anyone else constantly forget people exist - not because you don't care, but because your brain just... drops them?
Out of sight, out of mind is a cliché. For me it's a lived thing.
I have a friend who's really well-connected in education. Another who knows everyone in the startup space. A cousin who went through something hard last year. And I... just don't think about any of them until something external forces the thought.
It's not that I don't care. I care a lot. It's that my brain doesn't passively maintain people. They go quiet and they disappear, until a WhatsApp notification or a random memory brings them back.
I started looking for something that could help. Not a CRM, I'm not managing relationships like a sales pipeline. Something more like a memory extension. "Hold onto things about people so I can actually show up for them." I couldn't find it.
Something like a Telegram bot. You voice-note into it after a conversation, "just got off a call with Neha, she's going through a job transition, mentioned she wants to get into product", and it stores that. When you're like "who in my life knows about product roles?" it surfaces Neha.
I want to understand - has anyone else dealt with this specific thing? And if so, what have you tried?
Did you find any app that actually helps with this? A notes system? A habit?
Would love to know what's worked (or what's failed) for others.