If a man downplays the dangers of being a woman..... RUN
Was talking to a gaming buddy of mine when I mentioned feeling nervous about an upcoming solo vacation I'm taking (my first one without at least one friend along). He outright said it was dangerous to travel regardless, and that being a woman had no real bearing on it. Told me I was just being paranoid.
When I called him out on it, he felt the need to add that just because I'm eloquent doesn't mean I'm smart, and just because I'm attractive it doesn't make me a good person. Also listed out my achievements such as being a published author and claimed I felt like I was better than everyone for having them, despite never bragging and being one of the most self deprecating people I know. If anything, he was always sharing pictures of his new house, pool, shopping hauls, etc to try and impress me. I would never bite or show interest, so I guess his ego had enough.
Needless to say, I put him in his place and then blocked him everywhere. These red flags were the last straw, but far from the only ones he had. Still can't believe he felt like he could speak to me this way and still keep me on his friend lists.
PSA for anyone who may need to hear this today: If you encounter a man that minimizes the added risks and dangers we face as women, even if it's early on or seemingly a throwaway comment..... RUN. Don't walk. A man like that is ignorant at best, misogynist at worst. You can't send them a bunch of statistics or otherwise teach them they're wrong. It's not about facts for them. These are not men who are safe for you.
Sunset Sarsaparilla, a spicy tuna roll, and veggie maki from the best sushi spot in the city.