u/Low_Independence_635

So my gf and I have been using Snapchat a LOT over the course of our 8 month relationship (we are in a LDR). About 3 weeks ago I noticed for the first time ever that the emoji next to her bitmoji went from a ☺️ to a 💛. But not even 24 hours later, it went back to the smiley face. But then fast forward 3 weeks…and I noticed this morning when woke up that the emoji was now a ❤️. Apparently this means we’ve been each others best friend for 2 weeks straight.

How is that possible when the yellow heart disappeared a day after it showed up? A glitch? Has anyone else noticed this?

After a recent argument the other day, my girlfriend asked me for some space. The concept of “space” with no defined timeline has driven me into insanity these past few days, because I have no idea how long before she comes back, if she comes back at all. So after 3 days of this I regretfully broke her wish and reached out to tell her that I am really struggling with this space and while I want to respect it and give her all the time she needs, I would really like to know what she’s thinking. Days? Weeks? Months? So she eventually got back to me and said she needs “a few days”. Still vague but at least better than not knowing at all.

During this break every hour has felt like days, sleeping and eating have been a scarce commodity, and I feel completely drained…not a single drop of energy to go to the gym, focus at work, or even dive into a hobby. Everything feels so bleak.

So my question is: those of you who have been in this situation, how did you get through it? How did you manage to get through the break? Because I know it sounds dramatic but as I sit here typing this, I cannot imagine how I’m going to get through the next few days to see if she comes back. It hurts so much.

I am 19m and my gf is 19f. My gf and I have been in a long distance relationship for almost a year. She’s in PA and I’m in CA. We haven’t been able to meet in person yet, but we’ve been talking about it a lot lately, trying to plan something soon.

Anyway, we had a big fight yesterday (I tend to be a bit insecure due to her party lifestyle and number of guy friends she hangs out with), so the fight stemmed from that. Long story short she got upset and told me she didn’t know if she could keep doing this (it wasn’t our first fight on the subject sadly). I asked her if she was truly in love with me and she said “yes but I need a second” so I replied “ok then”. That was about 24 hours ago. She had left my message on read and that was that.

Fast forward to today, I couldn’t sit with the silence any longer so I sent another message. I said “hi. I am respecting your space and will continue to do so for as long as you need. I just wanted to say that I miss you like crazy and I’m so very sorry for how I acted”. I sent that message on Snapchat, and saw her half swipe into it immediately after, but ended up leaving it on delivered. That was about 2 hours ago and I’m still on delivered.

The waiting and the not knowing if she’ll ever come back is killing me inside and really taking a serious toll on my mental and physical health. I’ve been throwing up today, can’t sleep and have been shaking a lot. What do think the likelihood is that she comes back? Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated.