u/Longjumping_Pace865

Asalam. I am now 25. Me and my wife have been married for almost 2 years. Now don’t get me wrong we have a really good marriage however everyone has downsides my wife constantly complains every time I come home from work about how hard her day was and she had to do the dishes (we have a dishwasher) she had to wash the clothes (we have a washing machine and a dryer) she complains about having to make food everyday when that was our agreement. In my head when I come back from work I have such a hard time having sympathy for her as there is only 2 of us how hard can it really be the only valid argument she has is ironing because there isn’t a shortcut for that but again there is only us 2 she has a nice slow schedule, a lie in, she goes to her parents house. She isn’t doing anything strenuous. Whereas I had a long day at work and already can’t be bothered and then I have to listen to this.

We have been on maybe 4 holidays 2 that were sight seeing and 2 relaxing ones. Now her recent issue as of late is that my family and me are surprising my 2 brothers with a holiday since they are due to finish their degrees soon. My wife has been non stop complaining that she wants to have a sleep over at her aunts house with her cousins and she wants to stay at her families home also. So I said she can go stay when we go on the holiday or they can come to our house since I’ll be gone (she visits her family every other day).

She was upset that she wouldn’t have been invited on the trip now on one hand I get it but on the other she’s very strict about non mahram and mahrams and the whole trip is going to be about the non mahrams (to her) so it’s just easier to not have her there. When I told her that she says you’re just using it against me when I’m not + it will make my brothers feel awkward if she’s around as again them being non mahram works both ways.

I am in need of some help as she says I don’t travel enough with her when I do the 2 sight seeing trips we went on (one was her idea and she complained the whole trip) and one was my idea.

Asalam. I am now 25. Me and my wife have been married for almost 2 years. Now don’t get me wrong we have a really good marriage however everyone has downsides my wife constantly complains every time I come home from work about how hard her day was and she had to do the dishes (we have a dishwasher) she had to wash the clothes (we have a washing machine and a dryer) she complains about having to make food everyday when that was our agreement. In my head when I come back from work I have such a hard time having sympathy for her as there is only 2 of us how hard can it really be the only valid argument she has is ironing because there isn’t a shortcut for that but again there is only us 2 she has a nice slow schedule, a lie in, she goes to her parents house. She isn’t doing anything strenuous. Whereas I had a long day at work and already can’t be bothered and then I have to listen to this.

We have been on maybe 4 holidays 2 that were sight seeing and 2 relaxing ones. Now her recent issue as of late is that my family and me are surprising my 2 brothers with a holiday since they are due to finish their degrees soon. My wife has been non stop complaining that she wants to have a sleep over at her aunts house with her cousins and she wants to stay at her families home also. So I said she can go stay when we go on the holiday or they can come to our house since I’ll be gone (she visits her family every other day).

She was upset that she wouldn’t have been invited on the trip now on one hand I get it but on the other she’s very strict about non mahram and mahrams and the whole trip is going to be about the non mahrams (to her) so it’s just easier to not have her there. When I told her that she says you’re just using it against me when I’m not + it will make my brothers feel awkward if she’s around as again them being non mahram works both ways.

I am in need of some help as she says I don’t travel enough with her when I do the 2 sight seeing trips we went on (one was her idea and she complained the whole trip) and one was my idea.