u/LizzieLove1357

So my roommate has a senior cat, and since she occasionally babysits, we have a couple of baby gates up.

The cat’s name is Mia, and I’ve noticed that Mia will actively try to get help with the baby gates so that she doesn’t have to jump over.

Like just now is the perfect example, I was eating my breakfast and she was meowing at me for help. So I opened the baby gate for her.

She CAN jump over it, but she either won’t or can’t jump over the other one which is a lil higher.

My roommate also has an American Bulldog, who isn’t very well trained. So even without the kids here, the baby gates stay closed to keep the dog in the living room. She will get into the trash in the kitchen if she gets the chance.

She will also beg for food, so we keep her out of the hallway that leads to the bedrooms as well because she will grumble when my mom is eating in her room for food.

Anyway, back to the point, I’m wondering if there’s a reason why Mia asks for help instead of just jumping over it.

TLDR: why aren’t christians more accepting when the bible teaches that everyone is perfectly made?

So I’m not entirely sure what to flair this, but I never understood it.

So I grew up Baptist, and being autistic, ofc I struggled with being bullied in school for it.

There was a point in time I even hated myself and called myself stupid. The ableism at school was really getting to me.

My mom helped me overcome this by reading me scripture, and even tho I’m not christian anymore, I can say that the reasons have nothing to do with my autism because my mother read me the passage about how I’m wonderfully made.

Basically it was “god was right, you’re perfect, ppl are stupid” (not a direct quote, she was actually much more gentle than that, but that was basically the message)

When I told other autistic adults this, they expressed that my experience is a rare one. Which is honestly sad, many other autistic adults who I have talked to have said that they have a lot of religious trauma, and left the religion because christians would pray their their autism to be “cured”.

Including an overstimulating experience of having a lot of ppl in the same room doing this, and just wanting it to stop.

I have even spoken with some christians who made the argument that autism is nowhere in the bible, and therefore clearly must be demonic.

It’s just kind of sad that more people aren’t like my mom and aren’t more accepting, with what scripture actually says you would think that christians would be against ableism and would speak out against it, but apparently that’s not the case

It’s honestly very rare for me to meet a christian who isn’t ableist, some have even told me “no you’re not” without having any knowledge of the fact that as a child I struggled with talking a lot and needed speech therapy. I needed to see two therapists on campus every day at school to learn basic things like fine motor skills and how to talk.

There was even a point in time where they thought I was going to be nonverbal for the rest of my life

I am very grateful to have a loving and accepting mother, I am grateful that I got the help that I needed and was able to get a diagnosis in third grade, it just makes me sad that more people do not have that love and acceptance and did not get that help.

Ableism of any kind hurts ppl, it causes trauma. Why would a group of ppl who claim to be loving and accepting of others, who preach that god made them perfect, turn around and cause traumatic overstimulating experiences for anyone who is different?

In all honesty, I don’t even care that it’s technically a disability, it’s also a part of who I am. My brain literally works differently, without my autism, I wouldn’t be me, and I like myself.

I like my special interests, I like how I get excited about things, I like my bubbly personality, I just wouldn’t be the same person if I was Neurotypical. That’s a fact.

Does it come with its struggles? Yes. It does, but everybody has struggles in life. Some people just have different struggles than others, that’s life, and it’s why learning how to cope and getting appropriate accommodations is imperative.

And I cannot express this enough, I really cannot, love and acceptance can literally change somebody’s life. Because I have unfortunately spoken with some autistic adults who still have not accepted themselves because they haven’t received nothing but ableism throughout their entire lives.

It’s heartbreaking, and I just want the world to change. I want people to be more loving and accepting. Not for myself, but for all of my autistic siblings out there who are struggling. For all of the autistic children who will inevitably face ableism at some point in their life, to be able to overcome it. For others to be able to get the help that they need the way I got help.

So I live in a warm area where roaches are very commonly found, and I’m scared of them. I HATE THEM SM, and I saw one tonight, and it makes me nervous to be without my cat because Ik he will kill it. He likes to kill. He’s a good boy.

So I’m thinking of taking him into the bathroom with me when I shower, but running water can freak cats out sometimes, what steps can I take to help him feel more comfortable around running water?

I’m open to brushing his teeth, but how can I train him to let me do that? I don’t think he will like it, and I could use advice on what to do.

I’m very curious about if Frankenstein’s Bride ever actually had a name, or if she was just Frankenstein’s Bride, and then I thought to myself “why not just read the book?” So here I am.

So my mom got Blackberry some catnip flavored dental treats, we were at the store and I said I was out of his catnip treats, which I use for his training to help him be comfortable in his cat backpack and harness.

They didn’t have exactly what I was looking for, but they did have catnip flavored dental treats.

I was excited for this because I was worried about his dental health, so this made me feel better.

When we got home, I showed my dad, and he basically said it was just marketing and that any dry food would do the same thing.

Now Idk if he’s right or not, so I’m asking here