u/Leon117x

I work for a small financial company in a small town. There’s around 12 employees at my location. I was previously in management and was recruited by my current employer. When I was in management I done a good job. I say that without sounding cocky and full of myself.

The establishment that I worked at, I really turned things around. I gained new customers, sales were up the most they had ever been, I was really involved with my local community. I got awards, recognized in social media and the local news etc.

This got the attention of my current employer. They came to me saying they noticed how I made an impact and would love for me to be apart of their team. I wound up taking the job as it was just a better deal that what I was dealing with. I liked management and felt I was good at it but it came with a ton of headaches, no work life balance, lots of hours and stress and so on, all the headaches that comes with management basically lol. My current job gave me more money, better hours and schedule, work life balance, less stress. Basically everything I wanted. I’m not a manager though.

Anyway!

When I got to my current job, I quickly noticed that there is a “star employee”. He is the one who trained me actually. He is very good. We get along and I have zero complaints with him! He’s been here for years. So I mean I’m glad he’s doing good! He has done well for himself and I’m all for people doing good for themselves! It’s not that I’m jealous or think he’s a problem. However he for sure overshadows any and everyone here, that’s how good he is.

However I want to do good as well. I hold myself to a high standard, I’ve always wanted to be good at whatever I do. I’ve always wanted to impress my coworkers and employer. I just want to be a great asset where ever I am. That’s just how I’m wired. When I was in management I was the “top dog” I guess you could say. I was the one people went to, I was complimented on my work, etc. but now that I’m in this different environment and not a manager and not the “top dog” anymore. I find it hard to stay afloat and noticed. It’s very hard when you work with someone who is just so good at there job that you are constantly overshadowed by them.

So for those that constantly strive to do the best at your job and want to make an impact at your job and want to be noticed and recognized, how do you deal with someone who is a “star employee” that constantly overshadows you?

I work for a small financial institution. I've been here for a couple of years now. Every year my coworkers take a day trip where they are gone all day, eating, drinking, gambling etc. Not everyone from my branch goes. Only the people in my department and my boss.

Except me.

I'm expected to stay here and work and "hold the fort down" while all the others in my department go have a good time. So I'll be here answering the phones, doing my work, plus doing anyone else's work for the ones that are out today.

My first year here when this happened I thought oh sure it makes sense I'm the new guy they probably already had this trip planned so it makes sense why I'd stay at work and handle things. But going on this second year I still wasn't asked.

It doesn't help that I already feel left out as it is but this just adds to it.

What's funny is I was recruited by this company, they saw how good I was doing at my previous job and how well I made an impact and they came to me and asked me to join the team. This job is much better than my old job by miles. It's better schedule and hours, more money, less stress. However | just can't shake the feeling that I'm just not included especially when they came to me and wanted me. Even though this job is miles better than my previous, at my previous job | felt wanted, included, needed. When I left my previous job they tried for 2 weeks to get me to stay. However at my current job, I feel like if I were to leave they might say "we hate to see you go" but I don't know that they would try very hard to keep me.

Maybe I wrong but that's how I feel based on what l've experienced.

Since working here there are a lot of days that my boss and some others don't really speak to me. Some days they may not speak to me at all and other days they may talk my head off. It's just so confusing to me. Why recruit me and say you want me if you're just going to ignore me and not invite me to things? I feel like my boss especially doesn't truly know me because he hasn't took the time to get to know me.

So then I start questioning in my head, do they like me?

From my previous job they saw me doing a really good job and now that I work here, did I not meet their expectations? Have I disappointed them? Why don't they talk to me much? Why don't they invite me to things? Just all these thoughts go into my head and it really gets me down.

Am I overreacting?

I work for a small financial institution. I've been here for a couple of years now. Every year my coworkers take a day trip where they are gone all day, eating, drinking, gambling etc. Not everyone from my branch goes. Only the people in my department and my boss.

Except me.

I'm expected to stay here and work and "hold the fort down" while all the others in my department go have a good time. So I'll be here answering the phones, doing my work, plus doing anyone else's work for the ones that are out today.

My first year here when this happened I thought oh sure it makes sense I'm the new guy they probably already had this trip planned so it makes sense why I'd stay at work and handle things. But going on this second year I still wasn't asked.

It doesn't help that I already feel left out as it is but this just adds to it.

What's funny is I was recruited by this company, they saw how good I was doing at my previous job and how well I made an impact and they came to me and asked me to join the team. This job is much better than my old job by miles. It's better schedule and hours, more money, less stress. However I just can't shake the feeling that I'm just not included especially when they came to me and wanted me. Even though this job is miles better than my previous, at my previous job I felt wanted, included, needed. When I left my previous job they tried for 2 weeks to get me to stay. However at my current job, I feel like if I were to leave they might say “we hate to see you go” but I don’t know that they would try very hard to keep me. Maybe I wrong but that’s how I feel based on what I’ve experienced.

Since working here there are a lot of days that my boss and some others don't really speak to me. Some days they may not speak to me at all and other days they may talk my head off. It's just so confusing to me. Why recruit me and say you want me if you're just going to ignore me and not invite me to things? I feel like my boss especially doesn't truly know me because he hasn't took the time to get to know me.

So then I start questioning in my head, do they like me?

From my previous job they saw me doing a really good job

and now that I work here, did I not meet their expectations? Have I disappointed them? Why don't they talk to me much? Why don't they invite me to things? Just all these thoughts go into my head and it really gets me down.

AIO?