u/Lazy_Guava_5104

I currently have a 2023 RWD IONIQ 6, and am thinking of getting a used Air. I bought the IONIQ 6 2 1/2 years ago, CPO with ~800 miles, and love the car - easily my favorite car thusfar. Only issue is that I could really use an upgrade to AWD, and I need more miles than the an AWD IONIQ 6 would provide (drive 800-900 miles a week for work and often drive 250+ miles in a day).

I tend to like smaller cars, so the extra length isn't a major selling point for me ... but I also know I'll likely need more space when my child starts getting involved with activities before long. What I worry most about missing, though, is the buttons and knobs. I'm especially a fan of the paddles behind the steering wheel to change regen on the fly! Also like cruise control buttons placed on the steering wheel spoke right next to where your thumb rests.

So, for folks here who have driven both, what are your thoughts on how they compare with driver ergonomics? How does the driving experience compare between the two?

It's a tough call for me. Give up a car I know I love for one which would be more practical in winter, and take the chance on not liking the replacement as much.

I currently have a 2023 RWD IONIQ 6, and am thinking of getting a used Air. I bought the IONIQ 6 2 1/2 years ago, CPO with ~800 miles, and love the car - easily my favorite car thusfar. Only issue is that I could really use an upgrade to AWD, and I need more miles than the an AWD IONIQ 6 would provide (drive 800-900 miles a week for work and often drive 250+ miles in a day).

I tend to like smaller cars, so the extra length isn't a major selling point for me ... but I also know I'll likely need more space when my child starts getting involved with activities before long. What I worry most about missing, though, is the buttons and knobs. I'm especially a fan of the paddles behind the steering wheel to change regen on the fly! Also like cruise control buttons placed on the steering wheel spoke right next to where your thumb rests.

So, for folks here who have driven both, what are your thoughts on how they compare with driver ergonomics? How does the driving experience compare between the two?

It's a tough call for me. Give up a car I know I love for one which would be more practical in winter, and take the chance on not liking the replacement as much.

Looking for thoughts on how much of a problem this might be and how to handle it. The other day, 8-year old daughter asked "Has mom ever been mean to me?". I told her that I had not really noticed her mother be mean to her, but that I don't see them together any more. I asked gently if something was bothering her and she declined to answer.

For some background, my ex was raised by an emotionally abusive and manipulative mother, who has estranged two of her children with the third perpetually trying to go no-contact. My ex's mother successfully alienated her from her father, and brought an abuser into the household. ... I was willfully oblivious to my ex repeating the cycle, and after we split felt rather bad that I had missed/downplayed so many red flags.

All that said, as far as I've seen my ex has been a good mother. I do worry what will happen when teenage angst get here, but have not yet seen any overt "meanness". She seems attentive and has good skills when it comes to all the organizational needs of parenthood.

I *have* seen her tell our daughter unnecessary white-lies. I have also seen hints of low-grade alienation attempts. Also, my ex monkey-branched, moving him in the day after I left. During their honeymoon phase I felt that she had moved our daughter to second-place status behind her boyfriend.

Some recent changes in our daughter:

• She started stuttering the other month. It was quite bad for a bit, but has improved. I know that stuttering can be either developmental &/or emotional.
• She has been more clingy lately. I don't know whether this is good or bad.
• She is more needy for co-sleeping. Previously, she simply wanted me next to her while she fell asleep, but now she needs to cuddle while she drifts off. I don't mind that, and if it's simply normal childhood insecurity I would see it as gentle & good - but I don't know whether to worry about it.
• And then capping all that off was "has mom been mean to me".

So, what is everybody's thoughts on this? Am I overreaction due to how her mother treated me, or is this a big red flag? ... I plan on telling our daughter that everybody can be mean from time to time, but what matters is whether they correct it and also whether it's rare or a pattern. Also, that everybody knows that people can do mean things so she shouldn't feel worried about talking about it to other people - that when meanness feels like it needs to be kept secret, that's when it most needs to be talked about instead.