First, let me give a little context:
We have been married 16 years, with several rocky years, especially the last few. I work a really good job on the road. It is in the construction/contracting field. I make decent money, and it is really a good job, but I have been traveling 9 days on and 5 days off (I go back home for those days) for the last 2 years. She works a job that allows her to work from home 2-3 days a week and/or office 2-3 days a week. It's also a good job.
Recently, tensions have been rather high between us due to some major arguments that have occurred within the past couple of months, that haven't been resolved.
3 Weeks ago I saw a weird transaction on our bank statement. It was trykinsa. I thought my card could have been compromised, so I googled that, and saw it is a sex toy for her. This I can understand with me being on the road, but the cost was about 90 dollars. Then a week later, another purchase was made from that website for another 30 dollars. From what I can see, their shop only shows that one vibrator/dildo thats for pelvic flooring, (she's 35 2 kids). Im not sure if the toy is exactly just for pleasure or if it does have some sort of kegel like beneftis. This alarmed me, as this is not typical for us or for her for the life of our marriage (never any toys aside some small vibrators).
HERE IS THE CONCERNING ISSUE - I found 2 boxes of female condoms, in a 2nd bathroom that I rarely go into. There was 2 boxes, still new, unused. There was a website listed on the box, zealsp dot com. So, I checked it out and its a prescription pharmaceutical website. Apparently female condoms are only available by prescription from a doctor. We haven't used any sort of protection/birth control in over 10 years. I hadn't even heard of a female condom, but its written on the box. She had to actively pay for a telehealth sexual health doctor, get a prescription from that doctor, to use that pharmacy to get those female condoms. The boxes I found were unopened. They were shipped on April 10th of this year.
I guess my questions is, why does she have these? Has she already cheated on me, or is the intent to cheat on me? She obviously has someone in mind or she wouldn't have paid for a telehealth visit with a doctor just to get these right? Or am I missing something and she could be like, "oh I got those for us to make sure we don't get pregnant?" Again, we haven't used any condoms in over 10 years+ and haven't used birth control in 10 years.
What does she have these for and is it connected with the trykinsa? Is she trying to tighten up for someone else? The female condoms are obviously not for me. She has hid them from me as well as the vibrator dildo thing. She doesn't know I know about either of these.
Anybody have any thoughts? Grounds to leave? I'm nearly there anyway due to other issues, but this would be icing on the cake. Idk it's left my mind messed up though.