u/Last-Lifeguard-3746

We aren’t together anymore.

I called her yesterday because I decided not to go through with the break. I called her asking if we could talk tomorrow(today), and if not I’d assume that’s her saying she’s done with the relationship. She said “idk”. When I asked “what do you mean you don’t know” she said “I don’t want to talk to you”. I said we are done and I’m returning your stuff tomorrow. I also said how I’m not going to talk about her because I still respect her and love her, but I can’t do the relationship anymore.

I’m trying super hard to stay positive. I’m trying to think about how I need to work on myself and later on I need to find someone who loves me as much as I love them. Did I do the right thing by not taking the break and then later breaking up with her?

So I have been with my girlfriend for about 2ish years now. We have a history of communication issues on her end, she was raised by neglectful parents so now she struggles a lot with expressing how she feels. She used to just shut down immediately but we have worked at it through our relationship. Even with this work I still find that communication is a huge issue with us.

I was doing my homework and she texted me that she wanted a break. She said that she doesn’t feel loved in the relationship ( I’m involved in a lot of things in my school so it’s hard to talk as much as we used to) and that she feels like our relationship is getting repetitive.

I asked her when she started to feel this way and she said it was 5 days ago, around the time when she sent the night at her friends house who is known for being extremely toxic in her last relationship and in general as a person.

I love her so much, but honestly I’m feeling a bit drained for everything that’s going on. I don’t know if I should just let her go. if she truly loved me and wanted to make this work, wouldn’t she communicate with me instead of choosing to take a break? If she truly loved me, why would she let herself be influenced by her friend? I just want to feel like I can be with someone who has the same goals as me, and truly gets me. I miss her, but I’m also so upset with her.

Also I just want to clarify that I’m not perfect in this relationship either. Even though im great at communicating and expressing how I feel, im a big over-thinker. Lately I’ve noticed that she’s been tired of me acting like that.

I’m not sure if I should stick to the break, figure out what I want, and see if this relationship is still worth fighting for again. Or if I should just break up with her.

So I(18F) have been with my girlfriend (20F) for about 2ish years now. We have a history of communication issues on her end, she was raised by neglectful parents so now she struggles a lot with expressing how she feels. She used to just shut down immediately but we have worked at it through our relationship. Even with this work I still find that communication is a huge issue with us.

I was doing my homework and she texted me that she wanted a break. She said that she doesn’t feel loved in the relationship ( I’m involved in a lot of things in my school so it’s hard to talk as much as we used to) and that she feels like our relationship is getting repetitive.

I asked her when she started to feel this way and she said it was 5 days ago, around the time when she sent the night at her friends house who is known for being extremely toxic in her last relationship and in general as a person.

I love her so much, but honestly I’m feeling a bit drained for everything that’s going on. I don’t know if I should just let her go. if she truly loved me and wanted to make this work, wouldn’t she communicate with me instead of choosing to take a break? If she truly loved me, why would she let herself be influenced by her friend? I just want to feel like I can be with someone who has the same goals as me, and truly gets me. I miss her, but I’m also so upset with her.

Also I just want to clarify that I’m not perfect in this relationship either. Even though im great at communicating and expressing how I feel, im a big over-thinker. Lately I’ve noticed that she’s been tired of me acting like that.

Edit: Sorry she’s not 22, but 20. I was typing pretty fast 😅