u/Large_Tangerine_2914

So in mid-November, I found out that one of my best friends, whom I was also deeply, embarassingly crushing on (I would probably say in love with) had gotten with our mutual friend. Which kicked off what my other friends and I called The Great Crashout that lasted 2 months. For a lot of that time, I was Not Okay. I woke up with a pit in my stomach, I was pacing my flat pulling at my hair, I kept hoping they would break up, I had extremely petty and jealous thoughts where I made her girlfriend the bad guy.

I sang The Subway by Chappell Roan at karaoke. Enough said.

And now that I'm over the worst of it, looking back, I can't help but think I over-reacted. I was treating it like a break-up even though we were never more than friends and I never confessed to her. But I kept acting like I lost someone. All the songs I listened to were break-up songs.

My therapist pointed out that, as well as the unrequited crush, I was also grieving the relationship with my friend now that she had a new focus and I was worried she would forget me, which makes sense, but doesn't explain why I was losing my marbles for 2 months.

So yeah; is it normal to react to someone not liking you back like it's an actual break-up?

So I have a crush on someone at my workplace. It is just a silly giggly one for now, but I would actually like to ask them out and see what happens. We get along well with each other, we have similar interests, and they remembered something I told them at the office Christmas party and recently came up to me and said "I think you're really going to like this". One small thing though; I don't know if they're single.

Reasons they might be dating:

-They were talking to me about someone called Celia and said "none of my theatre group think Celia is real and I keep saying I'll bring her to rehearsal but I never do so they think I'm making her up". This sounds, very strongly, like Celia is their girlfriend. I've ranted to my friends about it and they lean towards girlfriend, though some of them still say they could be friends (my friend said "geniuinely, as a theatre kid, that sounds like something I would say about my friends"). I also know Celia is their roommate, and my friend said she knows they had a crush on a roommate.

Signs they might not be:

-My friend asked what they were doing over the long weekend, they mentioned play rehearsal but not a partner.

-I mentioned what my type is and they replied "yeah my type is the reason I have to go to therapy". My sister thinks this is an indication they're single, my friend said her girlfriend would say the same thing despite being in a relationship. To me, if you were discussing your type surely you would mention your partner?

-They were talking about their roommate and I said "douchebag roommate or roommate we like" and they replied "douchebag roommate" again, not saying anything about dating their roommate.

I know there's a strong chance I am looking for signs that aren't there. But from this, does it sound like they are dating someone?