u/Large-Path7934

For 15years I haven’t been the biggest fan of my dad girlfriend. She’s not a terrible person , but she’s definitely not the best. She’s kind of a leech in my eyes. She doesn’t work, barely cooks, doesn’t pay any bills. Just drinks and smokes. Now, I’m not saying that my dad is the greatest man of all, however his life was well established prior to her and she’s definitely been his biggest financial downfall. She also has a daughter and my dad has been in her life since she was 2, compared to him being in and out of mines. ( I do acknowledge that my feelings of not liking her can just be because of my resentment towards him).

Now back to the story, my dad has never hesitated to jump for his gf and daughter. And as his gf would say “Me and my daughter get whatever we want from him because we can double team him”. There was a time they take family pictures together and I was not invited…at all lol. Father’s Day , they don’t include me in any plans regarding him. Now, if I try to do something for my dad they automatically have to tag along. Not to mention his girlfriend tells people they have one kid and I’m the stepdaughter.

A lot of his closest friends and family also do not want him with this girl because again she’s just not the one , atleast from our perspective. We kind of all feel he’s staying with her because of her daughter, but her daughter is 19.

Every once in a while he’ll say he know he can do better, but he’s the best she’ll ever have so he might aswell stay. ( I hate that he says that, not a fan of that at all). I’m just not understanding why he doesn’t find something better for himself.

I did try to express my feelings to my dad, but they were disregarded. He stated “I shouldn’t feel this way because his girlfriend looks to me as a daughter”. And basically was ready to stop speaking to me over my feelings, which kind of hurt. Since, I still want a relationship with my dad I decided to through it under the rug, but ultimately it still hurts.

Am I being selfish and unfair? And at this point what more can I do to even get him to understand?

*Ps. I’m 26y/o, so I guess it’s not my place to even be speaking on any of this. But these are just the basic things that have bothered me since I was a child*

For 15years I haven’t been the biggest fan of my dad girlfriend. She’s not a terrible person , but she’s definitely not the best. She’s kind of a leech in my eyes. She doesn’t work, barely cooks, doesn’t pay any bills. Just drinks and smokes. Now, I’m not saying that my dad is the greatest man of all, however his life was well established prior to her and she’s definitely been his biggest financial downfall. She also has a daughter and my dad has been in her life since she was 2, compared to him being in and out of mines. ( I do acknowledge that my feelings of not liking her can just be because of my resentment towards him).

Now back to the story, my dad has never hesitated to jump for his gf and daughter. And as his gf would say “Me and my daughter get whatever we want from him because we can double team him”. There was a time they take family pictures together and I was not invited…at all lol. Father’s Day , they don’t include me in any plans regarding him. Now, if I try to do something for my dad they automatically have to tag along. Not to mention his girlfriend tells people they have one kid and I’m the stepdaughter.

A lot of his closest friends and family also do not want him with this girl because again she’s just not the one , atleast from our perspective. We kind of all feel he’s staying with her because of her daughter, but her daughter is 19.

Every once in a while he’ll say he know he can do better, but he’s the best she’ll ever have so he might aswell stay. ( I hate that he says that, not a fan of that at all). I’m just not understanding why he doesn’t find something better for himself.

I did try to express my feelings to my dad, but they were disregarded. He stated “I shouldn’t feel this way because his girlfriend looks to me as a daughter”. And basically was ready to stop speaking to me over my feelings, which kind of hurt. Since, I still want a relationship with my dad I decided to through it under the rug, but ultimately it still hurts.

Am I being selfish and unfair? And at this point what more can I do to even get him to understand?

*Ps. I’m 26y/o, so I guess it’s not my place to even be speaking on any of this. But these are just the basic things that have bothered me since I was a child*