u/Lanky_Play1028

i’m quite young, but i’ve had a couple long term relationships in the past and they have all been ENFP-T (like me) to be specific. i’ve always seen people saying INTJ is the best match for ENFP, but i disagree entirely. i love being with an ENFP. it’s amazing to notice the immediate chemistry knowing that someone is so similar to you on so many different fronts. not only that, but the intuition between the two is unmatched. i immediately know and so does he! we also just understand each other and how to reassure and support each other. additionally, we are usually both hilarious and i love having an expansive friend group with someone i love wholeheartedly. not to mention the spontaneity of the two? yes let’s go out at 3am for a walk! (if it helps, im ENFP-T 7w8 or maybe it doesn’t and im stupid)

has any other enfp dated another enfp of the opposite (or same) gender? how did that go for you? did you feel like it was beneficial?

do you disagree with me entirely? should i be searching for different partners?

hi so for some context, me and all of my friends are in our late teens and have a lot of similar views on things like politics and religion. we have all been good friends for nearly a year now. one of my good friends, we will call her S, has a boyfriend who we can call D. D treats S horribly. he is neglectful of her needs, is VERY manipulative, and honestly flat out rude. me and my boyfriend have watched them argue countless times in our group chats and calls. my boyfriend and D are okay friends, which honestly makes this worse.

recently, D has changed into an outright racist piece of shit, along with a bad case of white supremacy. he makes many misogynistic comments and statements, talking about how women are good for nothing and should stay in the kitchen. just spewing things he sees on instagram reels to use against the other girls in the groupchat. both yesterday and today me and D have gotten into countless arguments that usually end in one of us leaving the groupchat out of anger. S is one of my best friends and i love her quite dearly, but D is just something i physically cannot handle being around anymore and being associated with. i’m generally a pretty accepting person and if you have differentiating views and opinions it’s normally okay with me as my friendships go much deeper than that, but when you push it on me, like D does, it just fucks everything up.

now i’m being told by my boyfriend that i really shouldn’t leave the friend group because of his behavior and we could work it out, but im at an absolute point of no return. why would i want to deal with this guy in a place where i should be having fun and being carefree? these are MY friends, not his. S tells me im being dramatic and that he is a good guy. i’m having a hard time seeing that and i really just want to leave. AITAH?

(i understand you may view this as some teenage bullshit, but truly i need help. i don’t want to lose my friends and support system, but if he’s here to stay that’s my cue to leave)

i always see people discuss things online like what kind of stores they dislike, what months they dislike, what days of the week they dislike, what trends they dislike… and all i can think about is, “wait why do you not like life?”. i love all stores because there is always new people and new things to buy. i love all months because its beautiful we get to move on regardless, to a new season, to a new time. i love all days of the week, even Mondays (mondays are actually a favorite of mine)! i love all trends because i think it’s amazing how humans can put their heads together and collectively decide something. i think this is the most enfp post ive ever made, but i truly want to know if other people view things like i do!

hey! i’m just kind of coming on here to ask if any other ENFP’s have struggled as much as i have with social anxiety. don’t get me wrong, i love people and im so very extroverted it can stress others out. my social anxiety has gotten better, but i used to cry in the car before doing anything public. always felt consistently ridiculed by others and for some reason convinced myself i could “feel” their distain for me. i once cried because i called my taekwondo master a ma’am instead of a sir. i stayed out on the sidelines my first day at volleyball, crying, because the fact that id need to be alone in a room trusting my peers was stressful. i am ABSOLUTELY an ENFP, and i usually warm up to people pretty quickly in these situations. sometimes this social anxiety that i’ve struggled with all my life makes me feel like a performative ENFP!

(i was also bullied heavily in elementary school and middle school, which probably plays a huge part in this)