u/Lamereddituser312

To be clear, I've been working full-time for the last 8 years. It's just now that it seems to be more... shit, than I recall.

Ive had two jobs in the last 2 years. Switched from my previous shit workplace, to my current shit one.

Ive developed some pretty sweet health issues with this current job. Starting getting very physically unhealthy, falling asleep at work etc.

I do all the "healthy" stuff. Strength training 2x a week, stretching 1-2x, walk heaps at work, usually work more after work. Eat fairly unprocessed food.

I'm strong young and healthy but fuck me im tired all the damn time. Get home, quite often pass out on the couch. I used to aim to be in bed 9 hours with the lights off before my alarm, now to actually keep up with shit I need to do, im usually in bed 7.5 hours before I wake. I dont usually do evening activities in the weekend because I end up under-recovering and feeling like shit on monday.

I have some mates who have a very similar experience, always complaining about being exhausted, not keen on many plans because theyre too tired. I've also worked with guys working 2 jobs, sleeping 5 hours a night, and they seem to handle it pretty well?

Pretty much spend my afternoon time just trying to eat enough so I dont fuck myself up again from losing weight from being too active (I eat about 4000cal a day).

I've been to the doctor plenty and had heaps of tests done, even my testosterone lol, but everything was fine besides mild deficiencies. Only suggest was "reduce hours, or get a new job".

Contrary to what everyone says Its so much goddamn harder to try and look for a new job when you're employed.

Need time to apply for jobs.

Need time to upskill. Dont have time when working.

Need a clear mind to perform well in job interview (need to not be tired + not have stress from shitty work environment).

I was on the benefit for about 6 months before the last 2 years and my god I was felt so much less shit and had so much more of a live, lol

For context, prior to dating this girl I was hooking up with a couple of people and I was having no issues.

When we started dating, I had a pretty rapid decrease in libido due to health issues (incredibly poor sleep/physical recovery), so I started to get in my head a bit because when we'd be making out or anything I just wouldnt really physically get hard.

Fixed my sleep and diet, and that issue corrected itself.

Again, was still in my head a bit, so it took me a little while to adjust to her doing stuff to me.

She uses her hands on me (inexperienced), I use my mouth/hands.

I'm not having issues with erections anymore with those things.

However, I've tried to had sex with her once (didnt really want to lol? Like definitely in my head about it). Genuinely so nervous to the point I started shaking, lmao. Went soft of course.

Not really keen to have that experience again? Ive talked to her about it, shes fine with me trying again when I feel ready, but in honesty I'm just not sure when its going to happen.

Maybe I just need to get more comfortable with failing lol? Like the fact I had no issues with people I didnt like (like I was just sleeping with them for the sake of sex) and now I am with someone I actually want to have sex with and actually like, is somewhat upsetting.

So, we've been together for a couple of months, and in that span of time, I havent really physically initiated much with her, and nor have we actually slept together. Prior to us dating she was aware I was sleeping with other girls at the time.

As soon as we started dating, my libido just kind of tanked it completely. So, we havent actually fucked, occasionally I'll do stuff to her, but its mostly a one way thing because shes more horny than I am.

While she has been understanding, im just not sure how long that'll last.

The problem is I find it so fucking hard to get psychologically aroused. I work a physical job, I come home, I'm fucking tired.

I got shit I always need to do, so I'm always thinking about those things. Unless I consciously choose to neglect those responsibilities and just engage in debauchery, I just cant really fully get in the mindset for it.

>im fucking tired

>im thinking about some bullshit

>if we do anything sexual, im neglecting other stuff.

No idea how people actually be horny, and take responsibility for their lives lol? Ive even tried viagra and like cool, it certainly doesnt put me in the mindset (as expected).

To be clear, **I have no physical issues, i.e I get physically aroused easily**.

We've been together about 3 months. Have done everything else.

What I find strange is prior to me dating her is I had a few casual sex partners, and I never really had any issues with them, i.e I was easily aroused.

Now with her, we've done everything but actual sex, but whenever I go to do the deed, I got soft and cant put a condom on lol, or get too soft to enter.

Now, we have talked about it, certainly hasnt really made much of a difference.

Ive stopped trying for the past little while because it has started to affect my confidence and I am generally feeling avoidant of it.

My location of work is: "(address of my employer) and the greater area)".

Every day, I meet my coworker at a pre-defined meeting spot (we arrange, just a random street). We then drive to different sites across the area.

I might meet with him at 5.20, then arrive at site at 6.

On the way home, we might leave at 4, arrive back to my car at 4.40, then I have to drive another 20 minutes home.

Employers want us to log hours from when we are at site. (6-4).

Whats the deal with this?