I don’t know what to do and I’m a bit in limbo
We have been dating for 4 months now and she’s my first relationship, so far I am her longest relationship but recently I’ve felt the relationship be incredibly one sided
I am always the one to initiate any conversation, hang out, date, intimacy or sexual interaction and it feels like I’ve been dating a brick wall, she used to be incredibly good and fun to text whilst lately it’s been nothing but one worded responses however in person she is a lot of fun and we get along really well
I am employed in a trade and she has been unemployed for about 2 months now while living with her roommate, but regardless of how tired I am or if I’ve had a bad day I always keep my effort up by asking questions or trying to have a conversation or just ask about her day and I get nothing back other then “ tik tok” or “nm”
She never compliments me anymore and recently we went to a formal dinner and the only time she said anything about my outfit was “ you look good too, I’m only saying that because you kept saying how good I looked” it hurt me but I didn’t let that put my mood down but really?? Is it that hard to give a dog a bone?
Today I needed some emotional support I had just found out information about a car accident that could’ve been a longtime family friend, I didn’t know wether they were alive or not, I told her about it and she hit me with “ oh that’s really scary” and then a “I’m sorry” and didn’t reach out at all until I had found out it wasn’t the family friend and I had told her, that’s when she instantly responds saying “ that’s good”
I feel so undervalued it’s hurting to put in so much effort and I don’t understand at all why I would have to remind her to care about me, I’ve repressed these feelings for so long and blamed my anxious attachment style to give her the benefit of the doubt, but I love her so much, when we are in person it’s great and we have the same life goals but I just don’t feel as appreciated as I should be