We have been on and off for almost 3 years and each time we come back together its always the same. Things are okay for a couple of weeks, things go south, we leave, then the cycle repeats. Its the same thing now, we always get in constaint arguments about the littlest things and I find myself always annoyed or unhappy whenever Im talking to her or on call with her. The only time im okay is when im by myself or when we just sit in silence and even then im annoyed. Everything I say always starts something, whether it would be a non offensive joke like "haha you suck" or something playful like that. She Is a very sensative person but when she gets upset she cusses at me and calls me name and always leaves mid call. (we are long distant). We always talk about changing but change never happens, things just stay the same, I often do things that make her upset not on purpose yes but im not claiming im always right. I feel like If i leave her, then she will paint me as this bad guy and tell her cousins or friends i treated her poorly or she will resent me. She also bought me gifts for my birthday which I feel bad for (Also I never asked for gifts). We had a conversation today about fixing our flaws and getting better but I dont believe that anymore. I lost so many friends because of this relationship due to my stupidity and feeling like I only need her in my life and I regret it so much. Please, someone I need help.
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We have been on and off for almost 3 years and each time we come back together its always the same. Things are okay for a couple of weeks, things go south, we break up, then the cycle repeats. Its the same thing now, we always get in constaint arguments about the littlest things and I find myself always annoyed or unhappy whenever Im talking to her or on call with her. The only time im okay is when im by myself or when we just sit in silence and even then im annoyed. Everything I say always starts something, whether it would be a non offensive joke like "haha you suck" or something playful like that. She Is a very sensative person but when she gets upset she cusses at me and calls me name and always leaves mid call. (we are long distant). We always talk about changing but change never happens, things just stay the same, I often do things that make her upset not on purpose yes but im not claiming im always right. I feel like If i break up with her, then she will paint me as this bad guy and tell her cousins or friends i treated her poorly or she will resent me. She also bought me gifts for my birthday which I feel bad for (Also I never asked for gifts). We had a conversation today about fixing our flaws and getting better but I dont believe that anymore. I lost so many friends because of this relationship due to my stupidity and feeling like I only need her in my life and I regret it so much. Please, someone I need help. Do I let time pass and see where things go and hope things get better? Or do I end It and move on?