u/Kusakaru

I got lowlights in my hair and I absolutely hate them.

I’m one of those people that grew up strawberry blonde but my hair faded over time into a dirty blonde. When I don’t color my hair, my roots are brown but the rest of my hair stays a sort of gold, and is light blonde in the tips.

I started going to my current hair stylist about 4 years ago and I really like her. Her color is usually on point and I began getting highlights and balayage from her, making my hair more gold all over.

I found it really flattering and it improved my self confidence. We would change it up every once in a while but I usually didn’t stray too far from what I like.

At my last appointment, she recommended I try low lights and told me it would give my hair more dimension. She also suggested I try cutting it shorter. I trusted her and said to go for it since she hasn’t let me down before.

But I hate it. I knew as I was leaving the salon I had made a mistake. She was so excited over it and saying how it was her favorite hair she’s ever done on me. I got home and looked in the mirror and felt dull, ugly, and like I had aged 5-8 years. It was much darker than I expected and I didn’t recognize myself. I also don’t like the length and miss my long hair. My hair grows so slowly so I’m just really sad.

Usually after I get my hair done, I tend to get compliments. Nobody has said a word to me about this hair, despite being way different than my usual, so I know it’s bad. The only person who has said anything is my best friend who told me (in a kind way) that she agreed the length looked bad on me and that I could maybe salvage it by going back to my old color.

I told myself to give it a few days to see if it would grow on me, but every time I look in the mirror I feel upset and don’t like my appearance. I seriously started questioning if I was pmsing early or something because of how much I hate my appearance right now and I want to cry whenever I see it. But nope. Not pmsing. Just upset.

My hair is very fine and I don’t want to damage it so I’m scared trying to correct it will make it worse. I’ve never disliked my hair from this stylist before and I don’t know if I should just suck it up and wait 3 months until my next appointment and never do this again or if I should be honest with her and tell her I hate it and see if there’s a way to fix it without damaging it. I’m torn.

I don’t want to hurt her feelings or make our relationship weird. But she is a very expensive stylist and the thought of spending the entire summer feeling ugly has me down. I also don’t know if it’s something she can even fix right now or if I’d have to wait it out.

Any advice?

I’m one of those kids that grew up strawberry blonde but my hair faded over time into a dirty blonde. When I don’t color my hair, my roots are brown but the rest of my hair stays a sort of gold, and is light blonde in the tips.

I started going to my current hair stylist about 4 years ago and I really like her. Her color is usually on point and I began getting highlights and balayage from her, making my hair more gold all over.

I found it really flattering and it improved my self confidence. We would change it up every once in a while, sometimes adding red or pink or going more blonde or an exaggerated money piece etc.

At my last appointment she recommended I try low lights and told me it would give my hair more dimension. I trusted her and said to go for it since she hasn’t let me down before.

Except I hate it. I knew as I was leaving the salon I made a mistake. It looks so bad. She was so excited over it and saying how it was her favorite hair she’s ever done on me. I got home and looked in the mirror and felt dull, ugly, and like I had aged 5 years. It was much darker than I expected and I didn’t recognize myself.

I told myself to give it a few days to see if it would grow on me but every time I look in the mirror I feel upset.

My hair is very fine and I don’t want to damage it. I’ve never disliked my hair from this stylist before and I don’t know if I should just suck it up and wait 3 months until my next appointment and never do this again or if I should be honest with her and tell her I hate it and see if there’s a way to fix it without damaging it. I’m torn.

Any advice?

I work as a CRC in oncology at an in person facility. I make about $58k before taxes with a 5% retirement match.

I like my job but I absolutely loathe some of my coworkers and management. I have one coworker in particular who I hate so much that I actively dream about quitting every day and telling her just how much I despise her. She is besties with our manager and HR person and I have been told by other employees that she has run off 6 “teammates” in the last 8 years. Unfortunately I was assigned to her team. I have never worked in such a hostile, unsupportive, work environment or been affected by a coworker this much in my entire life. I have always gotten along with my managers and coworkers in every job before this. This is a bizarre and unusual experience for me and management has been absolutely useless in navigating this.

I would like to continue in clinical research but there aren’t many facilities outside of this one in my city, and none that pay as much as my current one (which sadly isn’t enough money in this economy).

I’m interested in remote positions but wasn’t sure what that would look like. Does anyone here have experiencing working in this role remotely? Do you have any advice or things I should be aware of? Companies to avoid? Companies you’d recommend? I’m tired of being reduced to tears at work every day by the resident mean girl.

I work as a CRC in oncology at an in person facility. I make about $58k before taxes with a 5% retirement match.

I like my job but I absolutely loathe some of my coworkers and management. I have one coworker in particular who I hate so much that I actively dream about quitting every day and telling her just how much I despise her. She is besties with our manager and HR person and I have been told by other employees that she has run off 6 “teammates” in the last 8 years. Unfortunately I was assigned to her team. I have never worked in such a hostile, unsupportive, work environment or been affected by a coworker this much in my entire life. I have always gotten along with my managers and coworkers in every job before this. This is a bizarre and unusual experience for me and management has been absolutely useless in navigating this.

I would like to continue in clinical research but there aren’t many facilities outside of this one in my city, and none that pay as much as my current one (which sadly isn’t enough money in this economy).

I’m interested in remote positions but wasn’t sure what that would look like. Does anyone here have experiencing working in this role remotely? Do you have any advice or things I should be aware of? Companies to avoid? Companies you’d recommend? I’m tired of being reduced to tears at work every day by the resident mean girl.